she has a medical condition which causes low sex drive (we've had sex five or six times this year so far). Now she's had another problem (cancer - cured thank god) which had led to her being on medication whose side effect is...low sex drive. She'll be on this for five years, by which time I'll be 38, she'll be 45. I suspect my sex life is over. I still love her very much, and don't want to end up doing something stupid, or being resentful - anyone got any good ideas?
2006-09-14 09:37:22 · 9 answers · asked by Sculptor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
bregweidd - get's kinda repititive after a few years! (so to speak)
2006-09-14 09:45:32 · update #1
Folorn Hope - your name about sums up the chances of that. I wouldn't even risk upsetting her by asking at the mo.
2006-09-14 09:46:29 · update #2
Kelloggs - been working on explaining that for years. She just simply does not have the energy, desire or enthusiasm for the physical act.
2006-09-14 09:50:24 · update #3
nic_tammy - thanks. I suspect this is advice I should heed
2006-09-14 09:51:07 · update #4
See a psychologist to see how to deal with it. And have her talk to her doctor about getting something to help boost the sex drive if at all possible. If you get any comments about your being rude or whatever, ignore them. Your sex life counts too...but that's definately not all there is to a relationship, especially a 10 yr one. Good luck.
2006-09-14 09:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by nic_tammyscott 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her about it. Obviously you're here helping her with her needs and still taking care of her through all of her endeavors........so I'm sure she will work things out in this sense as it's pretty important to stay physically close to one another after such a long time together. You may even want to print that question out directly and let her read as you sound like you really love her and are only trying to help the relationship.
2006-09-14 16:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think nic-tammy.. gave a great answer. Sex is an important part of every relationship. Your woman should understand this and be willing to work on it with you through whatever means necessary. Good luck!!!!
2006-09-14 16:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a therapist who specialized in sex therapy. How you feel is understandable. It's not that easy to just be "ok" with your sex life being over, and it's obvious you want to fix things WITH her and not WITHOUT her. So try a therapist. They have experience with these situations.
2006-09-14 16:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you approach sex as an expression of love and go about it in that style she will be more understanding. Tell her how you like to be close to her and feel intimate with her physically in that way.
2006-09-14 16:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing on your mind should be her sex drive, knowing she's going through a difficult time like this, she needs ur support.
2006-09-14 16:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by jbspoiledeyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better make good friends with Rosy Palms! HE HE not really, dude if you really love her then you need to be patient with her, Maybe ask her for oral sex or hand jobs, Sex is not everything if your with the one you love! Good Luck!! And I hope you can stay strong for you and for her. I hope everything works out!!!!!
2006-09-14 16:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Eli_Corona_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she minds you getting some outside the relationship (an open relationship) to compensate... :D
2006-09-14 16:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
masturbate
2006-09-14 16:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋