how are sex and love two different things?

Question

"Sex and love are two completely different things. Some people just don't see it as being that emotionally intimate." -Crabby, to one of my questions


can someone explain (dont be afriad to be graphic) how someone can see sex as not emotionally intimate? bc in my opinion, if your shoving your penis into a vagina.. youre bound to have some sort of passionate bond with the person youre doing..

ps i dont mean to sound disapproving...i just dont get it.

basically... how do you separate romance from sex?

Answer 1

Sex is not personal. It can be, but it inherently isn't. You can have sex with a stranger. You can have sex with yourself. You don't need an emotional connection to have sex.

Love, however, is the opposite. Love is deeply personal. It's an emotional and psychological state. A deep caring for another person. You can't love someone you don't know. You can't love yourself (in a romantic way).

Sex, however, can be a way to express love. For some people, sex is very personal and should relate to love. However, sex is physical and loses something that love has. Animals have sex. It's necessary. Love, however, should be a once-in-a-lifetime thing, and thus is more personal.

Answer 2

If you truly do this right, romance and sexuality go hand in hand. Sex is just sex if there is no loving thoughts and caring attitude for the other. Lets say you go to a bar, you know and I know what you are doing there. lookin for some "trim" (pu$$y), Sex is the only thing on persons mind at this juncture. When you are truly in love with a person, then the sex comes naturally. Believe it or not, like i just said, sex and romance go hand in hand, its all part of the process. Once you have the woman in a "spell" as it were, thats the romance, and believe me, shes trying to do the same thing to you, then it will come easier and easier and the time goes along. As far as intamacy, Yes theres nothing closer than having sex with your partner. That is what brings two people closer, at this point, when you are having sex, thats as intimate as you can be, the "vulnerability" of it all, you two are seeing each other at a time when no one else will, being nude and having sex, you both are at the "point of no return" as it were. I mean when you have seen your lover in this way, theres nothing else, you both are totally open to each other. You are correct here, having oral sex and intercourse is the height of emotionally being bonded, there are no more mysteries there. Hope that makes sense. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think because the way I am that with love comes sex, but it should never be sex & then maybe love. However increasingly for many its just a slight attraction, hop into bed do the dirty deed & thats it forever.

For me sex is the most intimate & most statfying thing you can do in life if its with the right person. I know a lot of people my age dont see it like that & think its ok on a fri & sat night to get drink & have a quick shag behind the back of the nightclub. Im not going to get into the right & wrongs off that but to me I could never entertain that thought.

I agree with your point that getting sucked off by a stranger or someone you just meet an hour ago is just wrong. Although I know many might disagree with me but maybe i was bought up right or respect something called love?

Answer 4

It may be possible to have sex without love at all (especially just a one night affair only or just for fun). But if you love somebody you will enjoy more having sex with your partner esp. if you are married. But to be in love is not always about sex- there are a lot of happy things both lovers can share like having kids.

Answer 5

Sex is a physical act. You don't have to be in love with someone to have sex with them. Sometimes you are just physically attracted to someone and you have sex just to satisfy an urge. Call it lust if you want. When you love someone you are emotionally attached. There are strong feelings involved and this can make sex so much more gratifying. Prostitutes have sex with different people every day and they have absolutely no feelings of love towards the person poking at them. To them it is just a job, a physical act - no love involved there.

Answer 6

Sex is an act. Not a feeling. You enjoy sex. It has nothing to do with the person your with. You want the pleasure you get from it.
Love is a feeling you enjoy no matter what you are doing. It is not a one thing pleasure you get.
Making love is the enjoyment of sex and love at same time with the one your with. The one you love.
How can you not be able to tell these apart

Answer 7

Sex is just the physical act. I mean come on, men pay prostitutes for this service and I am sure neither feels any emotional connection. Love is an emotional bond that can be there with or without sex.

Answer 8

One of the principles of manhood is not to let your 'meat loaf.' Love and sex can be mutually exclusive or closely integrated or somewhere in the middle. Keep in mind that sex is good and should be fun and can be romantic. Even married, my wife and I enjoyed a very romantic evening with prolonged foreplay and sex. Other times it was headbanging rock n' roll. Then still other times we would just obliged one another by getting the person off who needed it. Some people just see it with only one point of view in mind.

Answer 9

Sex is a physical act, Love is emotional.... Now sex could be emotional if you love the indiviual,but if not then the feelings you get from casual sex will be short term where as loving & feeling while making love last a life time.

Answer 10

Sex is a physical act. It can be done for purely physical pleasure.

Love is an emotion. It is caring about someone as much or more than you care about yourself.

Lovemaking is the two put together. When you put your lover's sexual pleasure ahead of your own and he/she does the same, it's a very special freedom and pleasure.