How young is too young to get married?

Question

I've been with my current boyfriend for a little over a year now. Yes, I'm only 21 and he's almost 27, but we're so in love. You may laugh and think I'm too young and I don't know what love is, but I'm very mature for my age when it comes to relationships. Before this guy, I was living with my previous b.f of three years. He started being abusive so I left. Now, I'm more happier than I've ever been. I've dreamed since I was 10 yrs. old of growing up and finding that one guy and being with him forever. Not a fairytale life, just find that one guy that has ALL the qualities I look for. Now I've got him, we're going to Vegas in Dec. and have joked about getting married by Elvis. We're not religious so we don't want a church or to spend a lot of money and my dad and sister will be with us on this trip, so it makes for a fun story. I know as well as he (being 27) that this is it for us. He was too in a serious five yr. relationship until he was 24. Are we too young? We do live together(1 yr

Answer 1

The way you explain yourself and your situation, you do sound mature. For example, you thought up your wedding idea with fiscal responsibility in mind. If your Dad & sister are going with you, it sounds like your family approves of your relationship, which is also a good sign. Sure, 21 is young, but people in the past, especially, used to get married a lot younger than that.

Answer 2

I think you should live together for at least 3 years before you take that leap. In all that time, you should (you will always keep learning about one another) know some of each others good side and bad side. You should know all his likes and dislikes and he should know all of yours. I don't think it's more about the age. I think it's more about maturity and knowing one another. If you can make it through four years together without killing each other, then go for it. This is a big step and shouldn't be taken lightly. Your vows are for better or for worse as long as you both shall live. People do not stick to this anymore. They take the easy way out with divorces. They should have thought about this before they got married. All I am saying is don't jump into anything. My husband and I lived with each other for three years before we got married. Now we have been married for three years and we are both very happy. I knew all his sides and he knew all of mine. At least know what your getting into. Good luck.

Answer 3

This sounds like a good "romantic comedy chick flick" movie, 2 young people, in love, thinking about marriage , on their way to Vegas, with your sister and dad in tow. Starring Steve Martin as dad...LOL LOL. You are not too young for marraige, thats pretty much the right age for getting this done. When I got married, she was 23 i was 27. You're in the right area. Good luck if you decide to do this. This sounds too cool, picked up right outta Hollywood. LOL LOL.

Answer 4

To young to get married is when you don't know if marriage is right for you. You go into it blindly and don't know what hardships to expect. You have not only been living with this person for a while, but also lived with someone else. Do you think you're too young? What does it matter what others think?

The age difference doesn't matter, since you already experience life and know what you are getting yourself into... or do you?

Answer 5

Sweet heart you have the rest of your life
There is no happily ever after
everyone has to work at marriage it is hard
take your time and enjoy
other than that
Only you know when your ready

Answer 6

you are not to young. I am 23 and my husband is 20. But as it's already been said,only you know when you're ready.

Answer 7

I got married at 19, so in my opinion your not too young.