When my teenager stays with her grandparents they continuously let her do whatever she wants i.e. having her boyfriend go to their house when they know we would never allow that due to the fact they have been in alot of trouble together.
2006-09-14 08:26:42 · 10 answers · asked by FEDUP!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband and I have already spoken to them about this once before but they tell us we're too controlling and to give her some freedom but she gets in trouble all the time i.e. not coming home at all, skipping school, etc.
2006-09-14 08:36:26 · update #1
your husband needs to lay down the rules. (If it were your parents I'd say it was your responsibility) While I am a firm believer that grandparents are here to spoil their grandchildren rotten, there needs to be ground rules. A.k.a. no boys. Perhaps due to their age and being out of touch with todays youth, they consider her boyfriend as just a friend and aren't aware of all the *problems* that go along with it. Ask them respectfully, explain that her boyfriend has caused issues before (don't go into too much detail) and hopefully they will respect that. Also, have a talk with your child, she's fully aware that she's not supposed to have her boyfriend at the house, just because it's not YOUR house she's breaking your rules in, you can STILL punish her.
2006-09-14 08:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a big problem. Usually the problem is that grandparents benignly spoil a child with candies, staying up late, shopping trips but your situation borders on the dangerous. I think you should first discuss this with your husband and then either you or he should tell them that you do not allow her to spend time with this boyfriend alone because of all the trouble they've been in together. And, if your daughter ends up pregnant or in major trouble, you will *not* be happy with them for not supporting your parenting efforts.
2006-09-14 08:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by JennyF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would attempt to explain to the grandparents that this is your child and if they want to continue with the visits they have to abide by all the rules that apply at your home. Also remind them that it takes a village to raise a child and how angry they were or would have been if they were in your shoes. That should get there attention'
2006-09-14 08:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Coretta H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit them down and have a really serious talk with them. They should know that it's ok for them to let her get away with minor small things when she's over there, but when it comes to things such as her boyfriend they need to respect your wishes and follow what you want because you are the parent not them. If they can't respect this then you need to stop letting her go over there until they can learn to respect your wishes. This seems like a harsh way, but they have to know there place and you need to reinforce this ASAP!!!! Good luck!!!!!
2006-09-14 08:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a grandparent, I'm not the parent, therefore I have a different set of rules. I don't want to raise another child, I've already done that. That is my point of view. Please don't make us enforce all of your rules, we want to enjoy our grandchildren. Also, when I was growing up and I went to visit my dad and stepmother, there were a different set of rules at their house, too. People get to make their own rules at their house. So, if you aren't happy with their rules, don't let her go.
2006-09-14 08:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by parkhurst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your husband first and see how he feels about the situation. if he also agrees that this is a problem sit down with them and tell them ALL of the rules for your teenage daughter. let them know if they do not respect the ground rules you've set for her, you will have to limit her visits with them to just supervised day visits. let them know you're not trying to be mean, but just trying to raise a good child.
2006-09-14 08:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by .jess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forbid them to see her until she's 18.
2006-09-14 08:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You keep her away from them. They are the abusers and are irresponsible.
2006-09-14 08:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surprised that this is the first time you have had problems with them.
2006-09-14 08:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by hiedistump 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋