Has anyone here lost a sibling or a very close loved one? Just wondering.?

Question

Just wondering, because I want to know if people know the pain you feel of losing siblings. Take only children for example. They don't know what it's like to lose a sibling, unless they have a very close cousin or something that had died and he/she was like a sibling. Half the people in this world don't know, so, speaking about this, has anyone lost siblings? I think we need to tell some people sometimes that they don't deserve to know how it feels to lose a close loved one.
For example: I lost my 2 year old sister when I was 5. We were like best friends and very close. Losing her took a chunk of me that I'll never get back again. If anyone feels this way, I'm curious to know. I wont judge or anything.
Just wondering if we can all help spread the news of letting I-dont-care people know that I-care people and I-have-been-there people hurt easily by their rude remarks.

Answer 1

Yes I lost my little brother when he was 4 and I was 7. I slipped off to play with a neighbor while him and my mother were gone to the store. It was only 2 houses down the street. That day is as vivid in my mind as if it was yesterday I can still see everything so clear. I still wake up at night screaming. We were outside playing and got thirsty so we went in to get a drink of water after finishing our water we started down the hall. My little brother came through the front door as my friend picked up a 12 gauge shotgun that was standing just inside of the bedroom door and pointed it at me; my brother stepped between us just as he pulled the trigger. I saw him explode blood covered everything in the hall as the blast threw him into me. I didn't know there was that much inside of a human body. He lived for about a half hour and you might not believe this part but he looked up and smiled and closed his eyes went to sleep forever. His reason for being there; he was bringing me some of the candy he had gotten at the store. I blamed myself for this happening for over 40 years. I still sometimes think that if I had done as my parents told me; this would not have happened. There are no movies or anything that you could watch that would be as horrific as the images trapped inside my mind.

Answer 2

wow this is a hard subject,, I actually lost both of my older brothers. One when I was in 4th grade so around 8 or 9 yrs old,, he was 25,, and then my other brother Killed himself when I was 17 and he was 34. ( I am not looking for pitty it was just my life journey)
When my first brother died I was very young and it was just after my grandfather died, so everyone was very worried about my mom ,, and I was just expected to be OK,,, we didn't talk about it,, or deal with it and you surely didn't get any kind of grief counseling back then, ( I am 33 now). So there wasn't any place to put my anger and sadness and no one I knew had ever lost even a grandparent so I was all alone.

Then in high school when my other brother killed himself,, it was horrid,, we had become very close , and it so hard to feel all alone. I felt like a failure because I didn't know he was depressed and I wasn't there for him. I felt alone because I was from a very small town where people just don't kill themselves, and once again none of my friends had ever dealt with death,, I agree with you that people just don't think the siblings feel grieve the same way as a parent or spouse does,, when in fact we are the ones who suffer alot,, but mostly alone,, because we are trying to comfort our parents or children,, or other people who everything thinks should be closer to them than us.

I am sorry to hear about your loss and I am glad you posted this question.

Answer 3

I have. It's funny you mention that. It was summer of 99 we were in this camp and on this one particular day we where going to this lake. I guess a couple of the kids where playing a game in the water and my younger brother or all of us i should say didn't know how to swim. Well they where playing this cho choo game in the water and he fell and the other kids didn't notice and they just kep stepping on him. Finally someone noticed he was missing when they pulled him out of the water it was too late he was pronouced dead at the scene. I was young so I didn't understand but i could imagine what life would be like if he was still around. My mother said the day he passed she knew something was going to happend because he used to pee in the bed and that night he didn't. It's crazy... I had a baby boy recently and I named him after my brother. I feel like one way or another he is still close to me.

Answer 4

Wow...I hear you.
Though I can be rude, esp with the clueless selfish cheaters on here you have reminded me of my own pain.
I lost my big sister a few years past to a drunk driver hit and run.
She was always the foundation rock for me. She was a good Christian and I never got the chance to tell her how much she meant to me.
Watching my mother have to bury her was not easy.
Yet her good life somehow makes me want to live a better life.
I do miss her a lot.

Answer 5

My niece was mistreated by the hospital. Which caused her septic shock - then cardiac arrest - which caused her to pass for longer than ten minutes and she didn't get enough oxygen to her brain which caused her to have severe brain damage. She was in a coma for about 3 months and now she is severly brain damage and bed ridden. She can't talk, she can't move any of her limbs. She has a trak in her throat. We take care of her at home. I think some times it is worse seeing her the way she is now.

Answer 6

I know how you feel axactly cause my sister is whole american and my other sister is whole white and i am filipina and white we all have the same mom and different dads. I was separated frfom my sisters both of the my whole life and i think with out them today is the reason why i lost my son also I am divorced at 21 and was married at 18 cause of lonliness and wanting a family i could never have before and now that i have one i am losing it cause my ex husband who just had got married and had a baby boy and wants to now spend time with my son who is 5 years old first time for everything ha. I am splitting the time now with him and cause of court he will be able to take my son to mexico cause he said I am just lying i don't think he will take him to mexico cause i asked him if i let him go to mexico can i move to Portland, Oregon to be with my family. who i never got to know well cause i was in foster homes for 18 years. you see i am in the same spot kinda. i lost my mom and my sisters and makes me worse living day to day..

Answer 7

My sister died at age 17 almost 14 years ago. I still miss her!

Answer 8

I was lucky and didn' t loose anybody close, but my friend's parents both died of cancer. her mom and a year later her dad. she was 18 when she remained an orphan. it was an awful period but she managed to get through it with the help of her friends and sister

Answer 9

I have not lost a sibling but when I was seven my best friend was killed by a drunk driver.

Answer 10

I lost a love one when I was younger- she will alway remain the age she was- strange.