And that when your with them you're just wearing a mask and they've never seen the real you? and if they did, they wouldn't understand it.
2006-09-14 06:55:26 · 11 answers · asked by Ms. Roxie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And even if they understood it, they would simply judge you for it. We all have a part of ourselves that we hide behind the mask. We don't hide it because we're ashamed, we hide it because we fear the lack of understanding, our innate ability to connect with people who share this part of our lives. It's frustrating and a little scary to know that there's something within you that no one else can comprehend or, really, even want to because understanding might be worse than accepting. With any luck, you'll meet someone who shares that which you keep hidden. A friend, a lover, an acquantaince. There's ONE person in the whole world with whom you can lose the mask. Just be careful. Make sure you trust them with you before you remove the mask. Having trusted someone and then be rejected is far more difficult than trusting no one at all.
2006-09-14 07:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by ordinaryfemale 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that happens to everyone. Either you've grown or changed, or your friend has, and the bond that connected you through shared interests or situation slowly loosens.
Sometimes it happens right away, you both recognize it & move on. Sometimes, though, it happens so gradually that you didn't see it happening. In that case, you may look around & wonder what you ever saw in that person.
Again, one of two things happens: you go your separate ways, or you continue to act as though the change has not occurred. In other words, you continue to wear your mask.
In the long run, it's probably better for you to stick with the people you think can see & appreciate the 'real' you, rather than those with whom you need to pretend.
2006-09-14 15:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by oh kate! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many times I have been with friends through life that have changed or simply turned out to not be compatible with my life. Those friends I still speak with but I don't hang with. The bad ones I just dumped. You will never find a friend that is perfect because we are all unique in our own way.
2006-09-14 14:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by ₦âħí»€G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, do sometimes, its a really nasty feeling actually!
Sometimes I do put it on slightly, very slightly, just to make 'em laugh, or to stop them getting pissed off for not taking their jokes an' all that.
I think the thing is to just keep on trying to be yourself even if you're not THAT like them, I mean may as well 'cause they're still your friends!
2006-09-14 14:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by djhinesfloyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES i do, no my friends dont understand me but ive realised that not a lot of people do, i have only met one friend who i can say is my soulmate (friendship soulmate that is) but i have no contact as this person stays in a different country, but you will be fine just hang with your mates even tho they dont get you cos its better than nothing aint it just dont get to deep with them, have a laugh thats the best way , trust me you will meet someone one day that gets you we all do! be patient just wait good luck
2006-09-14 14:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I've found it's tough at the top. I can't trust anyone, I'm paranoid they'll find out that I'm blogging the truth about what happened to the rottweiler and poison my cocoa like they did with JP1. Help me Roxie, I don't want to be Pope anymore.
2006-09-14 15:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh yes... i remember once i liked a guy and when i told them they started mocking me because he is not handsome and then i had to pretend that it was all a joke...
little stuff like that and general interests makes communication and relationship more difficult.. i learn with time that maybe no matter how different you are if they are really your friends and you are his/her also it isnt THAT important.... i sometimes feel wrong in the group, but i remember that they are my friends... and sometimes the space (of differences) between us is created by ourselves, you must have sth in common..
well hope it helps.. good luck... its hard, i know...
2006-09-14 14:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by militastarg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time, the problem is i've been friend with most of them since primary school so it hard to tell them how i really feel and when i try they think its a joke
2006-09-14 14:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by destiny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The least amount of friends you have,the least amount of disappointment you'll suffer.Everyone looks after their own arses nowadays,to the detriment of WHOEVER gets in their way.
2006-09-15 06:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every day,espically when the only time they know you is when they need something from you,and they're jerks anyway.
2006-09-14 15:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋