If there are certain things about your friend that your significant other does not like? What if you knew your friend before your significant other? If you did continue to be friends, would you hide it fom your significant other? It can be same sex or opposite sex friendships that are platonic.
2006-09-14 05:58:47 · 12 answers · asked by GreenEyedSista 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that if your significant other really cares about you they wouldn`t make you give up any of your friends. If there are things about your friend that they don`t like, that`s their problem and they don`t have to like them. But just because they don`t like this person doesn`t mean that they are allowed to force you to follow suit. I have some friends that my boyfriend doesn`t care for and he has some I dislike, too. He would never want or expect me to give them up just because he has issues or problems with them and I would never do that to him either! Telling a person who they can or can`t be friends with is something you should never do when you love and care for them. That would be controlling them, which is not a good thing to do in a relationship. You don`t HAVE to have all mutual friends and are allowed to have your own friends seperate from him. You should never have to hide a friendship or "sneak around" to be friends with whomever you choose. Being dishonest and hiding things is as bad as controlling a person. Maybe the person you should really be thinking about giving up is your significant other. He sounds like the real problem, not your friend.
2006-09-14 06:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ex-Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew the friend before the significant other came into the picture, then unless that friend makes them feel extremely uncomfortable for whatever reason, you should not have to give up your friendship for your mate. No, you shouldnt hide the friendship, because you're not doing anything wrong (hopefully). If you met the friend after you've been with your significant other for some time, well that's when it gets tricky. That's when you have to priortize the importance of your relationships, especially get down to the reason why your significant other does not like your friend.
2006-09-14 13:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would NOT stop being friends with someone just because my significant other didn't like them. And I wouldn't feel the need to hide the friendship, either.
2006-09-14 13:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. No reasonable person would ask you to end a friendship for them especially if youve known the friend longer. Have a spine
2006-09-14 13:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by tranquilized_inaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would... Just to relieve any tension in the relationship..... No would not hide and secretly go behind his back to still see my friend he does not like... got to sacrifice in a relationship... Relationships are hard to find anymore
2006-09-14 13:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you have friends that he/she doesn't like don't throw them up in their face but still continue to talk to them. If there is something that he/she is concerned about then try to talk it out with them about why they don't want you to hang out with them. It's your life but I wouldn't allow it.
Never let a man/woman take away your life that you had before them, allow them to only make it better. Never allow a man/woman to take away your friends and family because they don't like something about them. Controlling is the name for it and Pain is how you pay for it!!
2006-09-14 13:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Misty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that friends come before relationships. You need to tell you sig. that you knew your friend longer than him/her. Unless you don't want to talk to your friend anymore, but i'm not getting that. If he doesn't understand than your gonna have to tell him to deal with it, or end the relationship with your sig.
2006-09-14 13:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Piper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, unless the friendship was damaging to myself and I honestly knew it.
2006-09-14 13:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this friend of mine were some hot looking female, yes, I'd stop so that my wife would be satisfied. 'yes dear'
2006-09-14 13:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I go by this rule:
The person who forces me to make a choice, doesn't get chosen.
2006-09-14 13:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋