I called the paralegal 3 times to tell her to be sure and cxl the divorce. She even created a postnuptial so we could move on to happier topics. 1 1/2 yr later it was brought to my attention from a friend that I showed divorced on the online Gov. page.. After checking, to my devastation I found out we were divorced as the paralegal never cxld it.....I still feel married to him but we keep spliting up & getting back together but he won't marry me again....Help? I didn't want to get divorced after getting back together and now I can't seem to keep him? Why doesn't he understand why I still feel married to him?
2006-09-14 02:26:24 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh man, could this be true? How could something like this happen? I dont know much about paralegals but I got divorced and too filed prematurely but still had to go thru the courts to finalize it. You just keep fighting the fight and telling him how much you love him and if he doesnt get it, then it wasnt meant to be. But if you havent explained the sitatuion already, just tell him he means everything to you and you acted out of haste and you went so far as to cancel it but there was a glitch. You have to keep in mind when times like this happen, you both get anxious and high strung and emotions are all over the place. Be careful what you say too not to get all hurtful with your words and stuff b/c that could make matters worse. Just be a stand that you too stay together and pray as well. Just dont keep beating yourself up too that you are this horrible person. Stuff happens and for more than a year I beat myself up for getting divorced so quickly as I did. I had to let it go for me and my sanity. My problem though is now my ex doesnt even want to speak with me. I dont want that to happen to you so just be patient, loving and a stand to have it work. Maybe you can call a lawyer and have it reversed if possible. Theres got to be something you can do. Keep the faith.
2006-09-14 02:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Uncertainty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because you divorced him!!!!! If this is a real question, I think you need to do some checking I was under the impression that you had to go to court to become legally divorced, I did.
If you really are divorced and he does not want to remarry you it seems that you only have 2 choices, live life the way you are now or leave his sorry butt and make him aware of what he is loosing.
It sounds like you have had a very rocky relationship from the beginning, people have to prioritize in a relationship, what they are able to live with and what they are not, what you can live with you need to lighten up on and let go, what you can not live with must be dealt with between the two of you and if it still continues to happen, you will never be happy in that relationship and you need to move on.
A relationship is never one person barking the orders and the other one following, it is a merging of two lives and the give and take of both people.
2006-09-14 02:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, dat's weird. I never heard of anything like this in my life. Anyhow if u didnt sign the divorce papers technically u r not divorce,and vice versa. If it is that u havent, and they have it that u did, then it's time for some concern. U need to get to the bottom of this prblm.
I do hope u have this matter resolved ASAP. As for ur hobby i suggest the 2 of u have a serious talk abt ur future,cuzz this on & off breakup is not healthy for either of u and kids if any.
2006-09-14 02:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you both actually signed the divorce papers, you are not legally divorced.
If you did sign the papers, then yes, you are, but you didn't mention this, and so I'm guessing there's some sort of information screw up.
2006-09-14 02:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't understand the reason why you still feel married to him is because you guys kept on going on and off the relationship that's why.
2006-09-14 02:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aloha oye, Aloha Oye, until we meet again:)
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2006-09-14 02:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋