im sad and i need help im constantly spacing out and crying at night.
2006-09-12 14:58:46 · 15 answers · asked by tinkerbelle2000@verizon.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is a weird process you have to go through with time. Initially you are kind of numb, then it kicks in that they are gone and you REALLY feel the loss. This part lasts for as long as you need it to. As time goes on you start to hurt less but in a very weird way you miss them MORE.
What you feel is not abnormal or anything...everyone grieves differently but it is something you REALLY need to go through in order to move on. I know it hurts (and it should because you lost someone very close to you) but it will hurt less in time. It may not be "right" again but it will hurt less. Don't try to rush yourself through this...if you are sad and feel like crying...go right ahead! You aren't on any time schedule. If you feel it is affecting your life in an adverse way...maybe try speaking to a counselor or going to grief support groups. They can help. Just don't rush yourself or have a set time to be "over" someone. It will all come around again and day-by-day you will feel a little less pain.
Good luck and take care of yourself! : )
2006-09-12 15:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone says time heals all wounds and when you are hurting you don't believe it but it is true. My father passed away almost 6 years ago and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about him or wish he was here but the pain gets easier as you go along. I found that talking to people who loved him too and sharing all the good memories I had helped alot and I started writing him letters, when I would really get upset I would sit down and write down what I would say to him if he was here sounds silly but it helped to get it off my chest. Tears are our way of letting the pain go so cry scream yell or whatever it takes. We all heal differently.
2006-09-12 22:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah I knwo how you feel my grampa died few years ago and my uncle was murdered last year and they didn't do anything to find his killer, and still sometimes I cry but life moves on. You gotta get up take your mind of things get away from the things that remind you of the persons death yah you'll cry sometimes after that but life waits for no one so don't let your mouring be come a season
2006-09-12 22:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart I know that it hurts soo bad to lose someone that u love soo much..my stepdad died 2 years ago and I still cry about it sometimes..You just need to take one day at a time..and talk to someone about it..a friend, family member, or counselor..Talking helps a lot..I promise..I know it's hard, but after a little more time you will start to calm down a little bit..I hope u feel better hun!
2006-09-12 22:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Or so they say. Let your heart take its own path, and you'll "get over it" (so to speak) when your heart will let you.
Talking to someone is a good way to feel better too. Being able to communicate your feelings with others will help your heart heal. Remember the good times that you had with that person. Let them live on forever in your heart and mind. Though their body may be gone, they never really left. They all live on inside of us.
Best of luck, dearest.
2006-09-12 22:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by dark_vampress_666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one good thing to do, that is to just let time do its magic. feeling sad and crying is something that we all do when we lose someone close to us. I went through this 2 years ago when my grandma, my uncle, & my best friend passed away in a 3 month time period. All I did was to distract myself when I was feeling sad, as time passed I felt better, this does not mean to forget about them though. Good Luck, Hope you feel happier soon :)
2006-09-12 22:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sancho... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all things. My dad died in January and I miss him terribly. He and I were really great friends. Sometimes when I am alone, I cry my head off. Its all part of healing.
2006-09-12 22:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WILL HEAL I LOST MY SON 2 YEARS AGO I CRIED AND DEPRESSES ONLY SON BEING AROUND PEOPLE HELPED YOU HAVE TO PUSH YOURSELF TO GET OUT EVEN IF YOU WALK AROUND THE TRACK I CRIED FOR 1YR AND THE DAY OF HIS DEATH I TRY TO STAY BUSY YOU NEVER GET OVER IT BUT YOU CAN LIVE WITH IT THINK ABOUT THE GOODTIMES EVERYTIME YOU FEEL UPSET THEN GO SOMEWHERE IT WILL TAKE TIME HANG IN THERE
2006-09-12 22:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Judy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts sweety but just remember just because their not here doesn't mean their not with you..You keep them alive with all the memories you have..and one day you will see them again..They wouldn't want you to stay unhappy they would want you to live and go on and to just remember them along the way..One day you'll feel a breeze blow and there's no wind and it will be them..they are still with you..I know it's hard but live your life cause no one is guranteed tomorrow..Trust me they would want you to be happy..take them with you where ever you go ..THEY'RE IN YOUR HEART ALWAYS..
2006-09-12 22:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time sweety. Time is the healer along with God's healing hand.
2006-09-12 22:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋