You hold in your hand the bank check that paid for your adoption many years ago. What do you do with that check?
2006-09-11 09:50:36 · 25 answers · asked by Michael K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The Bank Check is the Canceled Check from 1958. It has already been cashed years ago by the attorney who headed up the adoption. It is the irony of holding the "check" that paid for me some 48 years ago.
2006-09-11 22:07:37 · update #1
Threw it in the trash when I was 16, along with all the other adoption papers, all my school year books, school photos, and letters from friends. I planned to kill myself and leave nothing behind. Soon changed my mind and have regretted it ever since.
I found my mama years later by contacting the doctor listed on my altered birth certificate. Big Secret: The doctor's name stays the same.
A couple years ago I went to my home town library to take photos of my old classmates from the archived yearbooks.
This year I found papa. He's a real piece of sh*t and I won't be contacting him.
2006-09-11 09:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a very personal question, and no one single answer will work for everyone.
Was adoption a good experience for you? If so, perhaps keeping it in a private memory book of some sort is appropriate.
Was adoption a bad experience for you? If so, just shred it and move on.
No matter what, remember it is a canceled check. Canceled checks carry no monetary value (unless signed by someone famous!). It is a part of your personal history. Only you can decide if it's something worth keeping or something that should be thrown away.
2006-09-11 09:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by mn_star_jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess mount and frame it, depending on whether or not I grew up well with people who loved me or not. I don't know the circumstances. Did you KNOW you were adopted?
If it came as a surprise, then this is a whole different conversation.
If you wonder whether to contact your birthparents or not, then you could use the check to investigate that arena.
I guess I am not sure where you are at with the whole thing so it is difficult to answer your question. Biiiig subject to tackle.
2006-09-11 09:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was paid years ago I'm sure you still don't have it cause a check is only good for about 6 months to a year 20yrs later you can't cash that check cause who's to say that bank still exsists lol
If U have a check I'd say put it in a trust fund or a savings account that way you'll have money when your old enough
Good Luck
2006-09-11 09:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you adopted? Your parents paid with a check to buy you? I meant to purchase you? I meant to have you? That is kind of crazy morally. If you get rid of it now maybe when you are 60 you might want to look at it? I don't know duude.. or did you give up your child up for an adoption... jeeese. No one knows what you want...
2006-09-11 09:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it paid for the adoption, then its a paid check, nothing I could do expect keep it
2006-09-11 09:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frame it with a photo of when you were first adopted and write thanks for loving me and give it to your adoptive parents. If they are not around anymore, or if you had a bad childhood after you were adopted, still frame it and keep it as an affornt to you to remind you that you have great strength, and that you can overcome great difficulties.
2006-09-11 09:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume it is the "cancelled check" since you say it 'paid" for your adoption.
If so, it has no monetary value
So it is a memento. Put it with other mementos, birth certificate, etc.
Or burn it; it's no good now.
2006-09-11 09:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have it matted and framed with a photo of my adoptive parents and myself and a beautifully handwritten calligraphy phrase that says something to the efffect of, "What is the cost of love? And how can I repay you for the blessing that has been my life? The value of our family, our togetherness, is priceless."
And I would present this to my adoptive parents to hang in a place of honor in their home. If they had passed on, I would place it in my home to honor their memory.
2006-09-11 09:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to find your birth parents then try contacting the bank whose name is on it. It is just a long shot however. They might have thrown out the records of who it was issued to many years ago. Also look for the name of the agency that cashed the check (might be on back) because they might keep records better.
2006-09-11 09:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋