Alright Im a mom of a 3 1/2 year old son. His father and I have been broken up for about a year and 1/2. He has a new girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. He tends to let his girlfriend go out with just my son alone(she just had a son with my sons father this past april) Neways. My sister in law called me and told me that her friend saw his girlfriend and my son at the mall with one of her friends and her child. Meanwhile my son ran from her and bumped into someone. His girlfriend ran over and gripped him up by his arm and drug him over into the store and screamed at him and cussed and everything else. Now she isnt his mother. I find that very appauling!!! Does anyone else think that I am just being over-reactive or Is it perfectly fine that I called my child's father up and told him I dont want her alone with my child ever again or I will take her to court so she cant be alone with him no longer!!!
Take into consideration that this girl and I dont get along at all!
2006-09-11 09:30:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I messed up the question!! Sorry it should say I need YOUR help!!!
2006-09-11 09:33:14 · update #1
Sounds like you have a GREAT case for emotional abuse-witnesses and everything. To scream and cuss at a child is inappropriate, whether you are his biological parent or not. I would talk to a lawyer to try to get sole custody or not allow her to be alone with him any more. You are definitely right to be mad! Good for you for wanting to get something done about it! You are a GOOD mother for trying to protect him from this woman. Protecting is what parents are supposed to do, and it is not overreacting.
2006-09-11 09:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand where you're coming from. At the same time, do you want your child to learn that he can get away with bad behavior with people who aren't his parents? I agree with you calling his father and not wanting the girlfriend alone with him (this situation would have never happened if the father had been there). And the father should spend the time he has with his son actually being with his son since he's not with his son as often as he would be if you were still together.
2006-09-12 00:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by danigrl1212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was more than appropriate that you talk with the father about this matter. It would probably work better to you (and your son) if you can talk calmly to him. And if you get reliable reports on any further abuse, it should be reported to the authorities. The person who witnessed this act could certainly tell them what she saw. Always keep eyes and ears open when it involves any child.
2006-09-11 09:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not overreacting. This woman obviously has some anger-management issues and your son does not need to be around that. He is YOUR son and you can and should make some boundaries for his emotional well-being. Don't wait and don't be intimidated by his father. Do what is right for your son.
2006-09-11 09:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not let him out with her alone. Talk to your x . Maybe the two of you can come to an agreement about this before it gets to court.If he seems to be unreasonable explain that you don't want your son with her alone because the time your son is with them is meant to be his time with daddy .Your son does not need that kind of treatment.Court can get messy. Hopefully he will understand.
2006-09-11 09:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let your child be with anyone who is abusive for one minute. Protect your child. He is innocent and has nothing to do with your breakup. Your ex should be the only one to visit him. Phone child services and ask them what you can do about the situation.
2006-09-11 09:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would feel the same way you did and i probly would have done the same thing so i wouldn't worry about it like you said it's your son not her's and she should have just explained it to him like step moms do
2006-09-11 09:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Robin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be IRRATE if she would have done that to my child! you need to talk to both of them together and if that doesnt work i would call a lawyer and have supervised visitation
2006-09-11 09:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you i definetly dont think anywone has the right to treat your child like that. exspecially your x's GF. i think you should talk to your x and tell him you dont like how shes treating your son
2006-09-11 09:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney8707 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take your child with you
2006-09-11 09:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋