With our 2 girls one 10 and the other 18 months. She has always been very social and have a lot of friends and now she has lost them cause she has no time for them. I want her to be happy. what should i do? any nice woman out there with kids want to be friends with my wife? she is a really fun and interesting and good person.
2006-09-11 09:15:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What's wrong with let her go back to work? You don't want her to lose her identity.
2006-09-11 09:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a stay at home mom just sucks sometimes! Seriously, give her money at the end of the week when you get paid that is strictly hers. Watch the kids whenever possible and encourage her to go out with friends. I have worked in the corporate world, military world and been a stay at home mom. I will not ever, not ever, say that staying at home with kids is easy. It leads to depression and insanity! It helps if she can bond with another stay at home mom and they can work together to raise the kids, encourage her to look around for a stay at home mom companion! I did and it saved my sanity! If that doesn't work for her, maybe she should go back to work. When a woman is a stay at home mom her Independence feels threatened and her patience is tested every day of her life. Never make her feel like her say so in the house is not important. It is everything and she knows more about what is going on than you do. Always tell her she is a wonderful mom and you are so proud at how the kids are developing. (even if they are drooling on you or making ropes out of your ties.)
Anyway, Good Luck and Take Care
2006-09-11 09:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally relate to your wife. I'm a stay at home mom to a 17 month old girl and am pregnant with our second child. It's hard not being as social as I used to be. My advice is to try to make time for her. Offer to watch the kids in the evening, if possible, so she can go do something for herself. Or, hire a sitter and take her on a date. You sound like an awesome husband and I applaud you for asking this question. Maybe she can join a playgroup like I did and meet some other mothers in the same boat. I found one on Yahoo groups that I love.
2006-09-11 09:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a SAHM of 3. I have 3 kids under the age of 4. My life is full and busy. This job is TOUGH. And under appreciated. As another poster said---sometimes it sucks. It is 24/7--no weekends off. I love being able to be here for my kids and am willing to take the sacrafice. They need me and this is where I want to be--no matter how stressful and crazy it gets. But it can suck and get lonely too. We get out, hang out with neighbors, run errands, my daughter started preschool, meet up with my friends when I can. I don't do playgroups and mommy and me classes...mostly because I have a lot of small kids to handle. My oldest and my second are so close in age that if I can't find a class for both of them---it doesn't work. And I just don't like those mommy and me classes--just not me--I rather use that time to meet my friends and their kids at the mall. I have enough going on, grocery shopping, clean my house, cooking meals.
Now--I think it is great that you are aware that your wife might not be happy. But the real question---is what does your wife want? Does she really want to go back to work? Does she just need time to herself? Would she like someone to clean the house once a week? What I miss is spending time with my husband. I suggest you start out with being her friend...instead of finding friends for her. Shell out the $$$ for some babysitting....and take your wife out once or twice a week. Go out with friends. Go to the movies, go to a concert, see a play. Take some classes together, meet new friends. Or you watch your kids and let her go out with her friends or give her a few hours a week to be alone. She needs to not feel like a mom a 1-2 nights a week.
2006-09-11 09:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by crazymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a new and first time mom i would have to say that she needs your support. I too am having a rough time adjusting to staying home as i am a career kinda person. Your wife truly needs some time alone whether it be to have a hot bath, some time with friends or just to go to the store while you look after the children. Also the two of you need a regular weekly date without the kids. If you wants to go back to work support her in that or she may become withdrawn and depressed.
2006-09-11 09:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jaymie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and that i latterly went by way of this. i'm a stay at homestead mom, and had a confusing time going from social butterfly to asking my 3 year previous what to do with regard to the "loopy drivers" on the line. that is quite a confusing swap, after speaking it over my husband and that i desperate that i might get a factor-time job. i got here across a job that wasn't very demanding ( so as that i does not get under pressure) and that i paintings in keeping with risk 20 hours a week. that is great!!
2016-10-14 21:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not let her go back to work if only for part time. the kid can be with other kids playing at daycare your wife can have a social life and then you can all come home and be a family.
Or take a week off and take her out on the town.
2006-09-11 10:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to find out what it is that she really wants to do. You can made a statement and say we can put to kind in daycare doing the day while you can do what ever it is that will make you happy and I'll pick them up from daycare or school. Just try to understand how she feels and make her happy
2006-09-11 09:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by shawnte_hampton2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same Situation Here!
You can contact me thru my yahoo 360 connected to my avitar.
I know what it feels like.
I was a stay at home mom for six years, I went back to work but now am stay at home again. Been home a week and already going nutz.
What state are you guys in?
2006-09-11 09:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you watch the kids so she can go out and have a normal life, or maybe get a baby sitter so she can get a job thats always a good way to get new friends
2006-09-11 09:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by jennifertrinitysky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she could join a "mommy and me" playgroup with the 18 month old. Or she could work outside the home.
2006-09-11 09:18:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋