ok so i just started highschool last month on the 17 on a thursday.i didnt no anybody ecept for my brother who is actully a sophmore.well my frist period class is study hall and since the first day of school i saw him and imediatly fell in love with his charming good looks but i never made a move till monday.he just kept looking around and just sitting there until i wrote a note 2 him asking if he was ok and he said yeah and we just kinda started talking from there and at the end of class he asked me if we could have lunch together since we have an open-campous.well we had lunch and talked and flirted and stuff and at the end of lunch he asked me 2 go out with him and i said yes!!!!!!!well weve been going out for almost four weeks now and i still havent told my mom yet.he is 2 years older than me cuz he failed and smokes but he is the most charming guy i have ever met!!but i dont no if i should tell my mom cuz then she'll like freak out when i tell her hes16! what do i do?
2006-09-10 09:48:11 · 11 answers · asked by Angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have good grades and stuff but i dont no if i should tell her or just keep having this secret behind her back????
2006-09-10 09:49:19 · update #1
well chances are ur mom will never like any guy that you like or go with I dont know why but all moms are like that so expect dissapproval about it
2006-09-10 09:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by whitetigereyes8485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're under the age of 18, so yes tell your mom so she knows what is going on in your life and can look out for you if need be.
I think maybe both of you need to concentrate on your studies...spelling and grammar would be a good start - lol - and as long as that is your priority, if I were you mom I'd not have a problem with you seeing him, as long as you spent a good deal of time on your studies first...improving your scholastic skills. I'd also think it might be important (with your mother's approval) to spend much of the time you do spend together at your own home so your mother can get to know him better too.
Good luck.
2006-09-10 16:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young for a bf. You shouldn't already be thinking about this kinda stuff so soon esp. you're only starting HS. I mean, the age gap is not a big deal, but your mom might not like the fact that he smokes or failed twice. No mom would want her daughter dating a loser. Oh, and she might think he'll try to get in your pants too.
Best thing to do is just stay friends with him so you can just introduce him to your mom "as a friend." That way you're not lying to anyone.
2006-09-10 16:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by ♥iamsleepy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have met a nice guy, but leave the stuff about smoking and flunking out of the conversation. She can then meet him and make her own decision. Whatever you do, be strong and take him along the good path. Do not go down the wrong path with him.
2006-09-10 16:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..i cant say ure having a dilema coz it shouldnt be one for u. my advice is to go open to ure mom and tel her u have a bf, talk to her about him, she wil understand u coz remember once she was ure age too. if in the end she has hard time accepting him than, u can invite him over to meet him. im sure if u like him so much he is a nice guy and he wil impress ure mom..but dont go behind her back coz on this earth in the end..only the parents are the ones that love us uncoditionaly, no matter what we do..i say u should tell ure mom and ull see ull feel much better than hiding.good luke
2006-09-10 16:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by dafneeselena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A quick and easy way to get Mom to trust you is to keep no secrets.
Tell her you have a secret you want to share with her, just the two of you.
I suspect that she may rule out "car dates", or only allow "group dates" for awhile, but that should help take pressure off of you to maybe do things you aren't ready to do. Get my drift??
Have her give me a shout out if SHE needs to 'chat'!!
Good luck!
2006-09-10 16:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Hag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't worry about it. I was in this situation once, yet my boyfriend was younger. If your mom is going to freak out about it, you have to let her know how you feel about him. I'd definitely let her know though, because if she finds out on her own, she may be even madder than if you would have told her in the first place. Hope this helps!
2006-09-10 16:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Trista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as you know this guy won't get you in trouble you're ok, but it be good if you told your mom, if you need help w/ your relationship!
2006-09-10 18:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you fell in love with your brother?
2006-09-10 16:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her and then run to your room and lock the door.
2006-09-10 16:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋