as a child of divorce not as a spouse
2006-08-28 08:50:57 · 20 answers · asked by just_adorable_pink_love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-28 08:52:48 · update #1
thanks for being so thoughtful
2006-08-28 08:53:12 · update #2
Sex with lots of different men always does the trick in this situtation.
2006-08-28 09:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by BadAdvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a child of divorce you just have to keep your head up and understand that its not your fault and things will get better. I'm not saying its not gonna be tough, because it is really tough but you cant blame yourself. Things between your parents have changed and I can assure you that they have not told you the whole story and there are things you will never know the truth about, but you have to just take it day by day and know that things will get better, although they will never be the same there will be happier days ahead and just understand that divorce is hard not only for your parents but you also and that's something the parents often forget, but sometimes you may have to step in and say hey this changed my life to, and they need to help you maybe get some counseling like it did to cope with my parents divorce. Talk is all I can tell you talk about it don't hold it all in. Just keep your head up there's better times ahead!
2006-08-28 15:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by stormy2u2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents got divorced when I was too young to remeber.So it's not too hard for me because I don't recall any times at all.No bad and no good.But my husbands parents divorced when he was 14 and it was really hard on him.We don't talk about it.But he didn't fall apartI think he just seperated himself from the entire situation and built a new person inside himself.He is a wonderful man too.So my best advice would be to focus on yourself.Pay attention in school and try not to involve yourself in the divorce per say.Talk to your parents and ask that they not talk poorly about one another to you so that you're not forced to choose sides.And try to tell your parents as honestly as you can who you would like to live with so that custody battles won't become harsh with them trying to decide for you.You have choices here too.I don't believe in divorce myself.Me and my husband had a difficult time for a while but we took some time.....about a year and a halfs time......and focused on making our relationship better.And it worked.We are back to better than before.
2006-08-28 16:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by sunkissed299 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are going through this.......I know it is hard but you have to know that your parents love you, just sometimes we have problems and can't get past them and we have to go our seperate ways. Always have someone to talk about it with.....I have had a lot of issues in my life and I have learned that the best way to cope with it and try to heal is by talking about it.....never try to keep your feelings bottled up inside....talk to your parents and try to understand but don't try to blame one parent or the other.....they will get defensive and it will just cause a rift between you guys.......I am sure that they are having a hard time trying to cope with this divorce too. I am just 26 but I have been through this,,,,,,,my husband of 4 years left me 2 months after our 1st child was born and I just thought i was going to die. Your whole life changes but I was so thankful that my son was just a baby and would not be hurt by this as much as he would if he were your age.........Me and his father both love him and adore him but at the time it was just not working out for some reason or the other and I know what helped me was by talking about it and keeping busy.......when he left we had a baby and 2 foster children, so I was all alone taking care of three kids, I had to find a job and I went back to school since I quit to marry him............I was so busy that time just flew by........and you begin to heal little by little.... Good Luck Sweetie....If you want someone to talk to you can e-mail me at jen_v_dominguez@yahoo.com. Good Luck!
2006-08-28 16:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't listen to either sides of the family talking about the other. You stand up for them or ignore them. It's never just one person wrong, so don't believe it. My parents divorced 8 years ago. It was really hard, but please don't give ear to what either parent is saying. Love 'em both like it never happened, and in the end you'll be glad you did. I'm very sorry.
2006-08-28 15:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You acknowledge that you can't make choices for other people. You trust that they are doing the best they can with what they have been given. And you understand that it isn't your fault and there is and never was anything you could do to change what is happening. Good luck and God bless you!
2006-08-28 15:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by connie_mspt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling. talk about it with someone you can confide in. good luck. It was hard on me-being a child of divorce!
2006-08-28 15:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tweetalette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometims a divorce can be cool
2 bedrooms, 2 houses, 2 moms, 2 dads,
double the money!!!!
at least your parent will be happy and not fighting.
2006-08-28 15:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no easy answers like in the movies i suppose. but hang in there and don't let it marr a potentially good life ahead. though if both parents matter, start thinking of how u will spend time with them, as they wont be living to gether...
2006-08-28 15:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a child you have to accept the situation and try to become more active with other things that make you happy. you want to continue to spend time with your parents as much as possible still because they will influence your relationship with your kids
2006-08-28 15:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by TayTay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋