And if you answer no, two follow-up questions. 1. Do you think this makes you less desirable to high net worth men? 2. What moral justification do you feel you have for taking this position?
2006-08-25 14:46:18 · 18 answers · asked by Like An Ibis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you are getting married later in life, or maybe for the second time, you realize that there is a lot to lose if the marriage fails.
I would sign a pre-nuptial if my fiance asked me to. The reason is he may be trying to save what he has to give to his children for their future. It wouldn't be right for me to take things from them.
I would not ask my fiance to sign one. I am way too trusting, but I also don't have much to offer except my love, so I know he wouldn't be marrying me for my money!
2006-08-25 14:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEFINITELY -- I think a pre-nup is a GREAT idea -- and should be done for all marriages -- spell out what is expected of each partner, how much they will contribute to the marriage (and what they have as singles -- which is a good idea when one earns more than the other or when one owns their own home and the other does not). This way, things will be a lot easier in the future -- and it takes some of the messy edges off divorce.
2006-08-25 22:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, and I am planning on it when I eventually get married.
I see it as a way to set expectations before you get all goofy about marriage and the wedding.
A prenup should be done at least one year in advance of the wedding. Also both of you should have separate lawyers to go over the agreement.
I believe that this will strengthen the communication and expectations before the marriage on very important subjects like money, property, children and inheritances. It will also hold up in court to define premarital assets and debt. Very handy if you do not want to be legally responsible for your partner's failed business before the marriage.
Prenups are no longer used to "one up" the other spouse; they are now becoming documents that not only protects your partner but yourself. They should not be looked at as being a precursor to divorce.
2006-08-25 22:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Smartypants 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't unless I planned on getting divorced and I was worth more than my potential spouse.
My husband is worth substantially more than me. I didn't marry him for that. If he loses it all, I'm still his partner, the mother of his children, and the woman who will have to wipe him when we're old. If we were to get a divorce I have put in the time, commitment, love, patience, and work to deserve half of what we have. My husband put my name on every account he had when we got married. We are in this life together.
Now am I less desirable to high net worth men? Very possibly. If that man is looking for an addition to his accessory collection (his watch, his car, his trophy wife) and not looking for a true wife, than he wouldn't be attractive to me. That's why a lot of those men end up divorced. Marriage is deeper than scoring the hottie who only thinks your money makes you hot.
2006-08-25 22:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by ACK & DJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I would not. If a man loves you, or a woman loves a man, money should not come into it. You assume you are going to be married till death do you part. You both will bring stuff to the marriage and should part equally if you do. I am not a dollar sign and no man would make me feel like a gold digger, cause I'm not. No trust? No way.
2006-08-25 22:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I personally wouldn't.
Answer #1. It may seem less desirable
Answer #2. Morally, I feel like if a man is asking me to sign a pre-nup then he doesn't trust me, and if he doesn't trust me, he really doesn't need to be marring me.
2006-08-25 21:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
1. I don't think this makes me less desirable to high net worth men.
2. It's a matter of principle and regard to oneself. After all, if and when I decide to marry someone, I will be contributing something that's beyond pecuniary estimation. When I say "For better and for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do us part" I will mean it. Otherwise, what's the point?
Moreover, I will swear to love a man for the rest of my life, give him my all and his primary concern is to protect his properties, present and future?
I think not.
2006-08-25 22:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what the prenup says and what each of our financial standing is prior to marriage. If it's just something that would keep me from taking everything from him after a short marriage, that seems fair and I would sign. But if he wanted me to give up my career to have his children and support his career and then get nothing, I would take that as a sign that he didn't really value me and I wouldn't sign it or probably even marry him.
2006-08-26 03:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need for a pre-nup because I will cancel our wedding even if all invitations have been sent out and the rest of the wedding details are done.
2006-08-25 21:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i would not, because i feel asking for a pre-nup is saying WHEN this marriage is over you don't get anything i don't get anything and going into a marriage with thoughts of when it"s going to end will just make your marriage suffer more.
2006-08-25 22:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by dari98dae99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋