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Question

sometimes im in a really bad mood..like because im sad...and i always wish my bf would cheer me up..but he just gets more mad at me for having attitude problems..but like really i just need him to be nice and i will calm down.. but tonight..he just sed.. i cant take you anymore im going to drive you home..and he didnt talk to me the whole way..and when he dropped me off he threw my new shoes out the window...it was dark so i couldnt find it..and i called him to ask.where it was.and he sed..look for it..i sed i couldnt find it and he sed : so its not my problem:... i started crying.. it just seems like he doesnt love me.. what do i do to this.. this happens a lot..all i just wanted was for him to be nice..i called him to say.. hes going to regret being mean to me..so tomorrow i shouldnt see him right?..bcuz i ALWays go back to him.. should i make him feel bad for acting that way?..i just want him to feel what i feel..what should i do.

Answer 1

girl try workin on your attitude but you should definitely not go to him tomorrow that would make you look stupid bcz he got you mad right ? wait for him to apoligize and then make up and dont let this happen again .hope all ends well
realgirl

Answer 2

My Anaylsis:
Just reading from your side of story really seems he treated you bad. But to be objective and trying to give a netural opinion... can you be more specific on what is your 'attitude problems'? Like what did you actually do that make him so mad? This is important. For ex, if you crash his dream car and still want him to be nice to you ..then that's another case...
On the other hand, if he was the only one who did bad. Then, you should clam down a few days, and then write him an email about your feeling. On your email, you need to sound really clam (a bit indifference) and saying maybe you need to rethink this relationship. And then see what's his reaction from there. This way,, if he cares, he will a bit worry and pay attention to your concern.
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In my opinion:
I always suggest people to talk it over ..but not revenge. You typed ' should I make him feel bad"? is not a good way to solve the problem. Instead, it will make matter worst.

Just tell yourself. As long as you do good on your part in this relationship, you have nothing to regret. If he treats you bad, then that's his problem.

Bottom line is relationship is built on the foundation of trust. Trying to hurt each other is not a healthy.
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My View:
Of course, I know you feel very bad and worthless as he threw your new shoes to you. I indeed feel bad for you. I think your bf is emotional type of guy. He can all smile now and all the sudden explode like a volcano and treat u real bad. If he is like this, then I am pretty sure he will feel bad of what he had done to you.

Also, try not to have bad mood all the sudden. As a guy, I sometimes get frustrated of 'why all the sudden she is sad '? Guys are not girls..minds are different. It is hard to expect he to KNOW what you think. Yes, maybe that's make him so mad.

Just wonder... does he always ask you 'why the heck you are quiet and looks so unhappy without reason?' If yes, then you should think about on your end as well.

Good Luck

wish you happy. ^_^

edited: 9:50pm PST

Answer 3

Do you know why he's pissed off with you in the first place? If this is happening too often, is it over the same thing? What do you expect out of the relationship with him? Is it only one-way? No long term relationship can survive at the expense of only one party. There must be a spirit of "give and take" on both sides.
Aren't you encouraging him to continue with such behaviour by going back EVERYTIME? Try letting him come to you instead of the other way round. You have to show some confidence in yourself! You definitely have some positive points yourself! Do not look down on yourself!

Answer 4

hey... listen to me.. I'm a guy, and I can tell you this from knowledge- DUMP HIM! This isn't a problem that's just going to clear up, you riding this stuff out is only teaching him that he can get away with treating you like that. Don't EVER go for a guy that is treating you badly... for some reason with girls, they like the "bad" guy, they like the challenge of turning him into a good guy- the only problem is that the behavior you are rewarding is the WRONG behavior, and with guys, they are going to do what works. So if him getting mad at you and throwing your stuff out the window is keeping you going after him and putting into the relationship, he's learning that his behavior is the "right" thing to be doing. You've GOT to dump this guy.

I know the nice boys out there don't have that same appeal that you are seeing in the rugged bad boy type, but you know something- those nice boys will treat you well, especially if you reward them treating you right by staying with them and showing them that you appreciate having them.

Answer 5

well for one U should not have to tell him to be nice, he should already know it so thats one thing wrong and he should know better to try to comfort u when ur sad. do u actually tell him ur sad ?? he should at least hug u if he doesnt have anything to say. Guys sometimes dont show emotions or care for anyone else. U need to dump this dude and find one that really appreciates u and treats u like a real boyfriend would. He sounds uncaring, mean and shows no concern for you. Dump him or else u will become dependant of his bad treatment.

Answer 6

I definately think this is NOT a REAL relationship. You shouldn't have to ask for his affection. SOMETIMES you may have to tell them you don't feel as though they are supporting you enough, but they should pick up on this too. If I were you I'd DEFINTELY give this guy up! But you do have to grow up a bit, YOU need to let your man KNOW whats bothering you... if you are in a relationship the man will pick up on your moods just like that, and usually will ask whats wrong, TALK ABOUT IT... get it off your chest so that you can be HAPPY again. But if he's still just SHRUGGING you off.... He's NOT worth your time. But that's just my personal opinion...

Answer 7

Here is what u do...stop acting like a child...if u need/want something ask for it...and then dump the boyfriend because he is a child too...And the next time u feel bad and want someone to cheer you up...figure out how to cheer ureself up so that u can start letting other people do it too.

Answer 8

seems to me that if he cares at all he wouldn't be throwings your shoes out the window. And if you really cared you wouldn't be putting a quilt trip on him. Maybe you just aren't made for each other. Or maybe you could try other methods of controling your attitude. Like talking to a best friend instead of a boy friend.

Answer 9

the best thing you can do is get out of that relationship. He is not worth your affection if he doesn't care how you feel, which he doesn't. If this happens every or almost every time he doesn't care. I suggest you dump him before the relationship becomes physically abusive. It is already emotionally abusive. Find someone who really cares about you and will comfort you when you are feeling down.

Answer 10

your kinda asking alot from your boyfriend if you expect him to always make you happy and cheer you up. he has to put in all the work. it really annoy guys when their girlfriend is in a bad mood all of a sudden and they dont know why. maybe he has just had enough. form his point of view this relationship takes too much work, and he may have had the last straw. let it be. give him space and dont crawl after him. if he really cares for you, he will come after you and apologise.