Let me explain this guy is my 1/2 sisters cousin.. not mine since we have different fathers.. anyway.. he is my sisters family.. one night about 5 1/2 years ago. we had a fling.. it was about 3 months before i meet my husband.
anyway when my husband and i were dating he never seemed to have a problem with me talking to this guy. ya know at my sisters parties or anything. but just tonight we were at a parade that my niece was in and his kids were in it too. and my husband was acting like a idiot. telling me that i looked at him.. well of course i looked at him! i look at everyone when i talk to them. And that he knows that i like this guy... gosh.. and his wife hates me.. because he always talked about me. this guy was in love with me for years. but i am 90% sure he is over that crap.. but after 5 years my husband starts to be a ash hole over this guy.. his wife always hated me but my husband always liked this guy but now he is just being totally rude! what do ya think is wrong with him?
2006-08-18 18:35:29 · 22 answers · asked by Kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He knew about him from day 1.. it is not like it was a secret that he just found out. i see the way he treats his wife it is not like i am going to leave my husband for him..
2006-08-18 18:53:22 · update #1
Well i can see why his wife hates you. because of him always talking about you.. maybe his wife talked to your husband about him always talking about you and it got ur husband worrying maybe my wife is talking about him behind my back? what is she still likes this guy.. will she ever cheat on me.. ur husband is going threw alot right now. and i am sure that you are also. but i see from some of your other questions and answers that you deal with ur husbands ex wife.. so imagine what you feel when you 3 are together.. then times that by 2. i would not doubt the fact that this guy is still trying to get in ur pants..i am not sure what you want because you did not say one time that you do not have feelings for him.. leaving ur husband and having feelings are 2 different things. i wish the best for you and your husband and i do not think that you are a .... or there is anything wrong with what you did before you meet your husband.. ur 1/2 sisters family is her family not yours!
2006-08-18 19:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he has some emotional baggage, and even some insecurity here. That's cool, it's about what you'd expect. So make him feel secure about it. Invite him into the conversations with this other guy instead of excluding him. Make physical contact with your husband -- for instance, holding hands, etc. -- while you talk to the other person. Keep a little distance with your male friend, and even if you know him well, try not to be "too" familar with him.
The other guy's wife probably feels the same way -- and your behavior will probably calm them all down.
But if you DO have doubts, or secret thoughts about the other guy, try to keep them to yourself and save those for your private fantasies. Unless you want the consequences....
2006-08-18 18:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Don M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is feeling a little insecure. To respect your husband since you were intimate with this guy at one time...if you must speak with this person and can't avoid him you should make it very brief. Regardless that your husband hasn't acted like this before..his feelings should come first. Think of it if the roles were reversed. Its just inconsiderate - not trying to be rude, but I can understand his feeling. I know you'll figure it out...if you didn't care you wouldn't be asking.
2006-08-18 18:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello honey...
Your husband may have the understanding about this guy and you...
But base on the action this guy had created, it generated a reflection by you, that could send the wrong signal to your husband...
It's point for me to explain, until one day you'll see the clear picture, when you're standing in your husband shoe...
Unless, if you lying to yourself that you dont like this guy and you never show simphaty at all....???
Trust me, only your instinct/soul will tell the REAL truth..!!
2006-08-18 22:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady,
First of all , two people are against the way you behave toward this guy (his wife and your husband) I believe you've been sending some signals that being detected.
Also you just said that " you like the guy" which means any opportunities with this guy can get worse than just a fling.
You are the one who's creating all this mess.
get your sh*t together.
2006-08-18 19:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by PNP_BIOS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there read some of youre answers and they are as much help as a wet paper bag ,mine might not be much better but at least im not going to suggest that you have done the dirty,right youre husband is really jealous and you both need to sit down and talk this thing right out ,instead of him having pot shots find out whats really going on in his head ,he might well have been talking to his wife ?and what is her problem with you is because you where seeing him before her ,well point out to her that he is with her now and that you hve a husband of youre own and you dont want 2 of them ,as for this guy talking about you id not pay any attention to that this guy is trying to get right up his wifes nose and by god is it working it sounds as if he is enjoying doing this to his wife both of these guys need there heads knocked together ....REALLY HARD !!!!!good luck with it xx
2006-08-18 18:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun but sounds to me like either u did something or this guy did something that peaked ur husbands jealousy, either a flirtation, a look, body language , something.. and u need to get rid of this guy from ur life if its going to cause problems with ur husband then its not worth it.. sounds to me that u like the fact that ur playing with fire, u have his wife that hates u , yet u cant respect her enough to stay the hell away from her man knowing it irritates her.. so u like to make ur presence known and maybe it just took ur husband some time to realize that u enjoy it more then u say u do.. He saw or found out something.. if u love ur husband, stay completely away from this guy..
2006-08-18 19:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is my husband acting like this..! read on...?
2014-12-15 19:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your husband has been talking to the guys wife. Now, he knows the rest of the story.
2006-08-18 18:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by up all night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in his shoes, imagine your in a party and your husbands old girlfriends there too, and you see him looking at her and she's checking him out too. How would you fee?
You have to hide your lust better.
2006-08-18 18:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋