Ok my husband and me got married and then he left 3 weeks later for basic and AIT i will not get to see him tell Nov but I am not cheating home him at all I mean I would never and I thought he know that because like at first he was like i know you are not cheating on me and things but know he like you are cheating on me and spending money and all of the other creap and I am not so like why do they think this and what should I do about it
2006-08-17 07:19:27 · 17 answers · asked by Ashley W 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I know my english is bad did not need to know that I just want to know why he goes away and thinks this Because he knows I love him and trust him and i thought he felt the same way but he tells me he loves me then like you are cheating on me all in the same letter what is going on
2006-08-17 07:42:10 · update #1
The only thing you can do is reassure him.
Remember that only pain can make a man say such things and its the worst pain most men know. Lonliness causes such agony. Do what you can cut him some slack.
I promise you..... only profound pain makes men like this.
2006-08-17 09:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off.....If he is in basic and AIT, he does not have time to cheat.
Secondly, most of the marching song taught are about "Jody" and how he's messing with your woman. With all of the pressure of basic and it's goofy ways, this is just one more thing that is messing with his mind.
And a suggestion ladies, while he is gone, do NOT send him pics of you in your undies and such. The first thing that goes through the mind is: Who took those pictures? They're pretty hot!
2006-08-17 14:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. your in a relaly tough situation.. i went through a very similar situation with a guy.... and really there is no way to change his thinking... his insecurities are getting the best of him, and only he can change that... the only piece of advice i can offer is to watch him when he gets home... if he continues to accuse you of such things.. you may wnat to have an emergency plan ready....have some clothes at a friend's hosue and a spare key.. jstu incse you need to leave in a rush... it may sound rediculous.. but until he has gone and come home a few times, and you know that his insecurities are only with himwhile he's away.. you need to knwo that you'll be safe if he does come home and decide that your lying and take it out on you, in a harsh way.... hopefully its jsut the guys he's around in teh army that are filling his head.. and he'll be fine when he gets home.. in either event. best of luck!
2006-08-17 14:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by joyfulpriss 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a way that they break you down in basic training. They make you think your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you. They say things like they are sleeping with your woman. Thaey are trying to make you break down and see how you handle stuff under pressure. This is a game they like to play and they will do their best to get you to believe your wife, girlfriend, mother and sisters are all trash and they are all "sluts". Many times the instructors will tell you they themselves are sleeping with your wife, girlfriend, mother, sister or any other female you know and this makes the trainee think they are
2006-08-17 15:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're in training, it gets lonely sometimes and a lot of times soldiers get 'Dear John' letters. You should visit him when he graduates or goes to AIT. Give him the 'ride' of his life and then tell him that you've missed him SOOOO much.
2006-08-17 14:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How many times do you say 'like' in that question?
Like I mean what are you up to like and did you not like pass any English exams like?
Sorry.. to be serious for a minute...tell him to wise up and be more secure. If you re not playing away from home then he needs to get a grip and stop putting pressure on the marriage.
2006-08-17 14:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Teacher 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In the Navy, it's called scuttlebutt. In the Army, it's called rumors, in the Air Force, it's called "powder room talk" Tell him I said to ignore anything he hears. It's all bull.
2006-08-17 14:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you because he should be spending time with you, especially right after your marriage, and care about you, instead of going off and using the military to expand his ego.
Jerk. He has no right to accuse you of that.
2006-08-17 14:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Poison 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, you both need to grow up.
For now, get an annulment and wait a few years before marrying again. You'll make a MUCH better choice of husband and you'll both be happy.
2006-08-17 14:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by Walter Ridgeley 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
People are lying to him about you here and there, also if you are cheating he will find out,
he needs to finish and get back to you ASAP.
2006-08-17 14:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋