i need to stop doing this so i feel better about myself.
2006-08-17 05:55:56 · 6 answers · asked by RACHAEL R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People who you hang around with is a reflection of you. They mistreat you because you mistreat them. They hurt you because you hurt them. Now if you truly want to stop gossiping here it goes just stop during it. Don't hang around anyone who does it. Tell them that you are trying to stop gossiping and when they start gossiping just walk away. Don't even listen to it because that gossip also. You must remind yourself daily on your goal to not gossip. It wont be easy and you will slip for time to time but if you stay focus you will stop during it.
2006-08-17 06:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I surround myself with positivity and people accept me and know that I don't react out of malice! Honey, everyone does it in one way or another it's natural and will continue to be as long as we have a cognitive mind of our own! All you need to do is be confident enough that when you say these things you can confidently stand behind it if some one were to address you about it, that way you'd have a clear conscious! I don't mind speaking my mind however I make sure that it isn't in a disrespectful manner and if need be I make it known to the person them self so that their isn't any misinformation and I don't worry about it. Besides why be so concerned about other people right! Anyhow, at least people know I am honest and won't take no shh, some people say I'm a firecracker others say I'm a free spirit, but the bad way to say would be that I am at times obnoxious, outgoing, and out spoken I know I am all of those things so, hell I am real so why walk on egg shells! Life is meant to be lived honey!
2006-08-17 06:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think the first step is already done, so good for you! :) you are acknowledging that u have a problem, and u are not happy with something, and want to fix it. u are acknowledging that something u are doing is causing a negative effect on ur life. that is so awesome..a lot of people can never figure out Why things are negative, even tho they are doing negative things!
what u need to do is take a step back, and figure out what you want from urself. as a person. are u happy w/ urself? are u happy with how you think? how u feel? how u treat ur family, friends? are u happy with yourself in appearance, in ur way of thinking, in ur knowledge? if not, you need to work on Yourself first, before u worry about people who annoy hurt or mistreat you. because you have to make sure you don't Intentionally Annoy, Hurt, or Mistreat OTHER people. so, working on urself will take care of you NOT doing that to other people. so what are u insecure about? if u feel ugly, work out, exercise, be healthy, work on ur skin, ur hair, ur clothes. find things that make u comfortable and look flattering. soon u'll realize that u feel better about urself because u LOOK better. next, if u feel u are not knowledgable, study harder, read more books, read the news. develop ur own mind, ur own opinions. be able to discuss and speak with ur friends, family and even strangers about different topics. be open minded to learn and teach things that are positive and not judgemental. once u learn to develop POSITIVE relationships w/ people, u will be able to filter out NEGATIVE things such as gossipers, or complaining too much, etc etc, cuz ur so busy trying to learn about good things.
once u feel better about urself in general, and u continue to work on making You a better person, it will help you stop being so negative, and stop hanging around people who are negative. u are able to change yourself, not other people. so make sure u can be proud of ur actions, ur thoughts, and ur kindness. be the kind of person u Want to be, and remember not to judge others who don't do the same. because u dont like it when people judge you! but if they Do judge you, u know that u've already been working on urself to be Better, so they can say nothing that will make u feel bad. does that make sense? if u didn't feel Good about what kind of person u were, than whatever other people say or treat you that is negative will Hurt you. but if u feel that you are Good to urself and good to others, than whatever they think won't matter anymore, because YOU know you are trying ur best. i hope things work out for u so that u can become more positive, healthy and happy. those things are Worth working on. :)
2006-08-17 06:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it rather is not any longer ok! it rather is incorrect to pull somebody's call during the airborne dirt and dirt just to your individual earnings! in basic terms considering which you have been to cowardly to look after your self, and why you are the style you're does not make it okay to denegrade, or make derrogatory comments in the direction of somebody! it rather is unfair for yet somebody else to be sneerd at, or stated at the back of his/her lower back incredibly if it wasn't authentic. You lack integrety, and admire. I strongly recommend you look those words up in a dictionary! I truly desire this individual unearths out what you have stated approximately him/her, and if that they had any variety of pastime in you... they could circumvent PERSUING YOU ALTOGETHER!
2016-09-29 09:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell urself that you shouldn't sink to that person's level, because you are better than that. And just show urself everytime u do it and you will eventually stop.
2006-08-17 06:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE LIKE THAT...PEOPLE ARE SO NEGATIVE NOW DAYS...LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE OF IT......WE CREATE OUR OWN MISERY AND WE CONTROL OUR OWN DESTINY...LIVE BY THESE RULES....I HAVE HAD TO....BEEN THERE IN UR SHOES...CAN'T STAND NEGATIVE PEOPLE OR PEOPLE THAT GOSSIP....
2006-08-17 06:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by debbie l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋