recently my long time boyfreind and i are seriously thinking about moveing about three hours away from where we are now. it would be an awesome thing to do and i want to do it. it just that after we talked about it i was scared, for some reason.
i get scared when im faced with life changeing decisions. like when we first talked about getting engaged and even way before that when i first started college. its not just decisions with my boyfreind its with everything: jobs, school, engagements, thinking about moveing, when i got my driving permit.. ect.
after the initial stomach dropping scared feeling im fine. so is that normal?
2006-08-16 13:05:59 · 29 answers · asked by lusciousevil 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i know im scared of the engagement a little bit because of my past. i was engaged before to someone who hurt me really badly. so that doesnt bother me anymore, ive worked through healing from it. im excited about it now.
ive also talked to my boyfreind about this and he says it's normal and not to worry to much about it. i just want some other peoples opinions.
2006-08-16 13:07:01 · update #1
It is normal to be scared. Change is a hard thing to accept. Life was so comfy and normal and now...it's not. It's hard to deal with.
Did you know that if a goldfish is raised in a little fish bowl that it only knows how to swim in little circles? Once you put the fish in a big pond it only know how to swim in little circles.
You aren't a fish. You are about to embark on a journey you are going to love and hate at the same time. You're growing up! :) It's going to be tough, and you're going to have to adjust. The best part about it, however, is that you WILL adjust and life WILL get back to normal.
Just keep communicating with your boyfriend/fiance/husband. You're going to be fine.
2006-08-16 13:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being nervous about a decision that will drastically change your life. I am the same way. I get accustomed to things being a certain way and the thought of them changing makes my stomach drop. I can't imagine how I would feel if it came to moving away from where I currently live. I complain about living here all the time but the thought of leaving doesn't even enter my mind. You will probably be fine and just remember, you can always come back.
2006-08-16 13:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by mlc24_1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? You sound a really good duy to me, a real catch... I don't know what you look like, I always thought this BDS was people who thought they were grossly fat or ugly, and yet I can't believe you are either. You have got a problem though, and theres no point in denying it. You HAVE to speak to a professional person about this. You have got a severe problem that is ruining your life. There will be a reason somewhere why you are the way you are, and you have to discover it and get rid of it. There are loads of people who can help you, and your first port of call has to be your doctor. If you find he/she not to be sympathetic, then find another. You have an illness as real and as deserving of treatment as cancer.... so please get out there and reclaim your life... for me?? I'm nice, I'm a woman, I'm probably old enough to be your mother, so as your adopted mother, I am telling you to go and see the doc..
2016-03-27 05:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS normal to have the feelings you are having. Try keeping a journal on these kinds of things. Place the pros of doing something and list the cons (Moving to a new place has the pro of meeting new people, the con is leaving friends/family). Talk it over with someone who is neutral on the subject. Good luck!
2006-08-16 13:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by sab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal. First of all, with decisions, it's best to just sit down and think things through. Do some yoga or take a jog, anything to calm your nerves. And consider everything. Make a list of pros and cons of the situation you are given. Sort it out. Think it through. And come up with your answer :)
2006-08-16 13:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by ChaiTea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. Thats what life is all about so dont worry. Everyday is filled with little or big challenges. Just be confident and think of the present not the future for now. You'll be fine.
2006-08-16 13:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Pre lives on 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. It's fear of the unknown, fear of being hurt again, fear of failure. But you could miss out on some really great experiences if you back off of your fears. Plus it sounds like you have someone that is understanding and will help you face that fear and your more ahead of it than most. You won't have to face it alone. Take a chance, you don't have anything to loose and if you don't you stand to loose out on living life. It will be ok.
Kris
www.badgerscents.com
2006-08-16 13:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you should be worried if you *didn't* get scared and nervous when making life altering decisions. You're just fine. That's completely normal if you have any self-preservation instinct. Enjoy the adventure of *life*.
2006-08-16 13:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Shadow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course it's normal. If you didn't get scared about life changing decisions then you would be abnormal. It's feelings like that that make life so great.
2006-08-16 13:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by romeo16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be scared, because you are moving into a new environment. I think everyone go through some type of scary moment in their lives. Just trust your first thought, and if it doesn't seem right to you, then don't do it.
2006-08-16 13:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋