My guy occasionally looks at porn ( I know because sometimes I use his computer) but its always the same site or type of site. Its a live sex show/web cam where you can look for free but theres also options to chat with the girls, send the girls mail (not sure whether email or regular), buy them gifts or have a private show. He supposedly only uses the free stuff. I dont mind guys occasionally looking at porn but I dont consider this regular porn. Movies & pictures are one thing, but live people are another. A couple of years ago, I told him how I felt in depth & mentioned it a couple of times since. How do I bring this up with out giving him an ultimatum? He doesnt take well to those. He has made some changes but not this one. Do other women mind their husbands/boyfriends watching this? Do you guys out there think this is just harmless or could lead to something else? Thanks for ANY input.
2006-08-15 03:52:23 · 17 answers · asked by scorpiogreeneyed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all real guys have some sort of porn collection or look at porn. but not all of it is the same. if he excessivly into online porn then he has a problem. if he is not open to your feelings about it - or the type of porn he is into then i'm not sure if he can be helped. he will probably hide it better.
2006-08-15 04:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Fenris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 05:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that the live people on the porn right in front of him that he can have conversations with makes it a lot different than regular porn. I would be incredibly hurt if my husband frequented a site like that even though I could care less that I always find porn on the computer. Looking at porn is natural for men. But I think this site takes it too far. When you can chat with and buy gifts for someone that makes it more serious. I really hope that he sees the error of his ways and makes you happy. Good luck hun!
2006-08-15 03:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby watches porn on the internet. I dont mind as long as he isnt spending money on it- which he wont. I look at it as this- he is with me, if he likes t, i love it. I get all of his attention and affection- and they dont.
The thing you have to remember that even though they may be able to talk to the girls, those girls wont go very far for free, so you really have nothing to worry about. I do not think that it will lead to anything at all.
In fact, i like to watch it with him because it gives me a chance to see exactly what he likes to look at and try different things, which is usually a huge turn on.
I say dont worry honey! A live person or not- he will never ever get the chance to meet these women! And they dont play fully for free
2006-08-15 04:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No this isn't regular porn, this is cheatin sweetie. It's looking at live nude girls and communicating with them. It's MIND SEX! It's dating via the net. In the old days the equvialent to this would have been sending nude pics and video via mail and having phone sex with women, now would u have tolerated this. No way, this is the same thing. Watching a porn mean looking and never talking with the ppl in it. But he is. It's a slick way of cheating, get him str8 or this will escalate to in person meeting.
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2006-08-15 04:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Gifted and Gracious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks he has to hide it from you, then I'd say it's time to give him an ultimatum. It sounds like you're most concerned about him going behind your back. Tell him that you're not thrilled with the kind of things he's looking up and that you want him to be honest about the porn he's looking at.
My bf does the same thing... I pretty much had to watch him cancel his memberships on a couple pay sites before I believed he wasn't looking at it anymore.
2006-08-15 03:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys watch porn..u r not offended by his porn but what puts u off is his taking part in live chats. suggest you offer to watch porn together for higher stimulation and take part in his activity show your interest in watching those movies together
His activity is purely harmless.
by doing this you can find out if he is chatting as well...I have tried it with my girlfriend and trust me you start experiencing a different level of relationship altogether
2006-08-15 04:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sanjay B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares how other guys or their wives feel. Remember you and he are in a relationship. Do you know what that means? It means that he should care if something upsets you or if your feelings are hurt no matter what the reason. You should be writing in about his lack of concern for you NOT his porn usage. O.k. so you just realized that he only loves you on HIS terms. IS THAT O.K. WITH YOU? Yes, then go straight to www.I am a doormat.com.
2006-08-15 04:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind my husband watching porn as long as it isn't an everyday occurance. It sounds like your man has a problem with this situation. If I were you I think I would offer him an ultimatum and just deal with whatever descion he made.
2006-08-15 04:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it's too big of a deal it's kind of like voyerism or peep shows... i dont think its anything to worry about unless he's setting up his own equipment and setting up his own live sex show..
Just tell him your not comfortable with him watching live porn. Plus he might like that he can tell a girl what he wants.. he's living the sexlife he wants through real people while he watches. Maybe you should try broadening your sexual experiences with him.
2006-08-15 04:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by carebearashee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋