I love my Husband very much but lately my...?

Question

My ex-boyfriend has been writing me and i answer him back he let me know that he still love me and somehow i feel the someway about my ex , but i'm confuse coz i love my husband he is so kind and he makes me feel alive but my ex keep writting me and he thinks i still love him , what should i do how can i know for sure who do i love more .

Answer 1

What do you mean somehow you feel the same way about your ex? What does that mean?

There is a reason he is your EX and your husband is your HUSBAND. If your hubby is a decent guy, be decent with him too. If you love your husband "very much" as you say, stop writing your ex-boyfriend.

Answer 2

Ask yourself if you really care about this X-boyfriend or if it's just exhilarating knowing that the X still cares. You made a commitment to your husband and it sounds like he is a good man. Only my opinion but, your loyalty should be with your husband. Ex's sometimes come back only because someone else is now in the picture. If it were me, I would end communication with the ex and concentrate on the man I promised to love and honor for the rest of my life. If the ex refuses to stay away, tell your husband before he finds out some other way.

Answer 3

It doesn't matter, you married your husband. You should never have gotten yourself in to this situation. Right now you write your ex, tell him you are married and stop writing you or he will get a visit from your husband. After that you don't respond, simply hitting the delete key solves this entire problem!! Grow up and honor the choices you made! This isn't high school anymore. If things were going to work with the other guy he wouldn't be an ex! You don't know what his motives are! What happened that caused him to start writing you? He probably got dumped and was feeling sorry for himself and so in order to get some attention to make himself feel better he thought of you and you played right in to his hands. That isn't love though. Love is sticking around which didn't happen in that relationship.

Answer 4

You're married. Your ex has no reason or right to be writing you. The one thing about ex's, they are ex's for a reason. Sometimes we want to relive the past so much, that we let ourselves believe things that arent true, like feelings for an ex. Just remember why he is an ex, and that you married your husband for a reason. You love him. Just tell the ex you are married, he needs to stop writing, that even though it was nice to relive the past, the present is where you want to stay, and that is with your husband.

who do you love more? Hun, like I said before, remember he is your ex for a reason. I dont know how long you have been married, but would it be worth losing your husband over someone in your past that obviously doesnt care about you if he is trying to break up your marriage. People who care about others do not do that.

Just remember he is and EX for a reason

Answer 5

Your ex has the right to still be in love with you. However, he should be respectful enough to acknowledge the fact that you are married to someone else. You obviously want to *try* to move on but your ex doesn't.

You need to let him know that it's time for him to let go. Tell him. Let him down easy...being harsh with him will just create bitterness.

Writing you and telling to how much he loves you won't help matters one bit. It'll just make you uncomfortable and if he truly loves yo, he won't want you to feel that way.

Your husband also deserves an explanation. Let him know what the situation is like right now. After all, you eat, sleep and live under the same roof.

Answer 6

First things first, is this a email address your husband uses that you set up your answers account with? If so, some people might text messages to you so make sure you have that option off and make sure he doesn't know about answers or you will be in big trouble missy!

Second thing: You married who you love and are meant to be with. Why? Because your EX is your EX. Whether or not your husbands "the one" your EX is your EX for a reason.

What was that reason? Thats why your not meant!

Answer 7

You only know how u feel, dont let someone else tell you how you feel. And if you want 2 be with your husband, then you need to cut your ex off, dont write him back and block his email so he cant write you. The last thing you need is someone trying to come in between you and your husband that you have a commitment with. There is a reason he is your ex.

Answer 8

If you have to ask this question then maybe . . . you still want to be with your ex. You need to talk to your husband. Tell him about your doubts.

Don't confuse your love for your ex for being "in love". I love my girlfriend and I am in love with her.

To know whether you really love someone, the only thing you can do is look into your heart. I say to talk to your husband only so the stress of this can be off your shoulder a bit. But neither your husband, nor these people on Yahoo!Answers can really tell you what you need to do.

Answer 9

Sounds like you still want to play the field, but that privelege was revoked when you got married. A person can be in love with more than one person at a time, but do not make love to more than one person at a time while married. Stay with the Husband and tel your ex that you have made that decision and you don't mind being plutonic, but that's as far as the relationship will go. Then stick to that conviction.

Answer 10

Your boyfriend's correspondence makes you feel warm and fuzzy because you feel well-loved. Well, if you continue to communicate with him, you will likely lose your husband. It's kind of dishonest to communicate feelings like that with your ex. The faith and trust in your marriage should make you want to stop this man's correspondence. My advice, best to just tell him to stop contacting you and send his letters back. If you don't watch out, your husband will catch on and then you may have nobody. The grass may seem greener or equally green but you made a commitment that you can't honor as long as you harbor feelings that you may have missed out on better.