my boyfriend refuses to have sex with me .i havnt been intimate with him in 6 months.im sure hes seeing someone.we dont even talk to each other anymore.but i cant afford to leave him yet.im saving to at least be able to have gas money .he also hits me.so would it b immoral if i had a quickie with someone?
2006-08-12 08:26:46 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he can play that game, you can too.
No woman or girl should be hit by a guy, that is wrong, we are all princesses every female is and we should be treated with respect. So if he refuses, I say you go and slip a quickie with someone, hey if you need the pleasure and as you say, if he is cheating on you, then it wouldn't be wrong.
After all, he isn't doing anything about your needs, so you fend for yourself.
2006-08-12 08:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Aida 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie it's never OK to cheat-there are OTHER ways, but that's not the real problem here. Your in a serious rut and you need to get yourself out of it. I know you need money to leave-WRONG.
Trust me I've done it, just leave and when you run out of gas or you need something don't be afraid to ask, there are still some kind people left on this planet. Where's your family, can they help you, and what about a friend?? If your getting abused I'm sure there's someone. And if not then there's me-send me your e-mail address-I'll do what I can to help regardless of where you live. Keep that in mind sweetheart. And be strong, don't ever let your guard down, people can be mean too.
2006-08-12 15:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is ever OK to cheat. I'm a firm believer in karma...what you do comes back to you. Since you think that he is cheating too, then I would just leave him ASAP. As soon as your money situation is better, that is. I wish you the best of luck. Remeber..two wrong don't make a right. (Sorry about the old cliché, but I think it's appropriate here.)
!!Yikes!!! I just re-read your question. If he is hitting you, please leave now! Do not wait until you have the money. There has to be some friend or relative that you can live with. Talk to a religious leader/clergy. (If you do not have a religion, just ask a friend if they can recommend a clergy-person for you....Christain, Pagan...whatever.) A clergy-person can get you the help you need. Please leave this man right now. There is a better life waiting for you somewhere dear. You don't have to take this from him. I will keep you in my thoughts.....If you need someone to talk to, my e-mail is: magickalpair@yahoo.com
2006-08-12 15:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by SpiritWitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be. Though I can understand. I' m in a similar situation. My girlfriend has NO sex drive. We haven't had sex in over 6 months, at least, and before that one time, it was probably 4 months. I try to be patient, because there are medical issues with her, but I'm still young enough to want sex on a semi-regular basis, and don't like being made to feel like I'm wrong for wanting it. If the two people love each other, sex is supposed to be a beautiful thing. Oh well.
As for hitting you, he's a coward.
I want to leave, too. But money won't allow. So, I guess I'm trying to say that I totally understand, and sympathize with your situation. If you ever want to talk, get in touch. Email me at blufor26@hotmail.com.
2006-08-12 22:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what if he finds out? would he beat you to a bloody mess? you had better just move out first. let him know its over, then call all the guys who say they will help you out. I cant do anything for you cause you must not be very hot if your bf wont even give you any. I dont care how many other ladies are in his life, if you were sexy he would still be hittin it. maybe you are the problem in the relationship. do you stay clean? do you smell? are you overweight? ugly? there must be a reason for him wanting to go elsewhere.
2006-08-12 15:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by god 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why a quicky girl, after 6 mo. I'd say take some time and enjoy it.
2006-08-12 15:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mama did not bring you into this world to be going through all this, once a persons hits..it will happen again!! Be safe and ah.....oh h-e-l-l.. go for a quickie. Dear Lord forgive me for saying that! ok..all done.
2006-08-12 15:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by DONNA'S NIGHTMARE COME TRUE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never acceptable to cheat. Yes he is probabyl cheating on you if he wont have sex. Dump him. Move in with friends or relatives. It is never ok to be with a man just because you cant afford to live on your own!
2006-08-12 15:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, need to WAKE UP!!what does 'i can't afford to leave him yet' means? can you afford a new eye once he punches it? get a job, get out of the house, get a new life..don't think about quickies, think about you. it's 2006,not 1850's.there are programms that can help u...do it,stop thinkig idiotic getaways.
2006-08-12 15:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, I would just get out of there if I had to go to a shelter for abused women, period! Do you realize what he might do to you if you fool around on him. you don't have to stay with him another minute, there are shelters you can go to.
2006-08-12 15:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by sweet smile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋