How to you forgive people?

Question

Is it easy or hard for you?

Answer 1

It is easier now than it used to be. I found out that in order to forgive people you have to have a love that is greater than their mistakes. This is the Christ type of love. I was in the Army and I remember I had room mate who was evil and wicked. I asked him to go to church one day. Immediately, he became angry and said, I don't like church and don't asked me to go to church. He picked up and slammed me against a wall four times. Thanks and glory be to God that he did not allow him to injure me at all. When he saw that I was not hurt. He was in shock and left. Since I was not hurt I was not angry with him. However, later on I became angry and desired to get back at him. Later on down the road, he came down with frost bite in both his feet. The doctors said that they would have to amputate both of his feet. People kept coming by my room and saying, "Hey your room mate wants to see you". I would not go see him because of what he did. After the third person came, I finally gave in and went to go see him. In the hospital bed, he told me how much agony he was in and he could not describe the pain. He asked me to pray for him. He said, "I know that you are a good man and that God hears you, pray for me". I pulled back the covers off his feet and they looked horrible. I almost cried when I saw his feet. So, I prayed for him. He came home from the hospital 3 days later.....walking (but not fully recovered). Our relationship changed from that day forward. Forgiveness is powerful not only in changing you, but the people that have wronged you.

Answer 2

It is abnormally easy for me to forgive, simply because I never do it for the other person... I always do it for myself. Harboring hatred and anger is how you get cancers and sicknesses in the body, mind and spirit. It almost never hurts or even effects the person you feel it toward (Unless you know how ). It only pollutes the hater. I ALWAYS find it quite easy to intentionally, and purposefully forgive everyone who hurts me. Karma is a beeatch and I like to mindfully end it with me, no matter the intrusion or the hurt it may have caused... Life is too short.

Now do I let those people in again? No... I do not turn the other cheek I am not Jesus! I do not see the merit or the benefit in allowing an idiot to be and idiot in my life more than a few times.
3 strikes and yerrrr out!!! Forgiven or not!

When trained and exersized you'll find that the human mind is highly adaptable to both negative stimuli and positive. It is like everything else in life, a choice each side requiring the same expenditure of energy and effort to uphold in equal measure. So Why be negative over just another situation? which one will you live with. I chose life and always... forgivness...

Answer 3

Some things are easy to forgive, while others may be impossible, I am neither God nor Jesus and cannot forgive all things - I may be judged on that issue one day. Instead when someone has done something unforgivable I hold them accountable and they will need to seek forgiveness through God, not me.

Answer 4

Nobody should forgive a vicar or priest if he sexually abused your young son or daughter.

We hear so much these days of religious leaders (vicars, priests etc) molesting children, especially innocent young boys, one wonders how much is still swept under the carpet to keep up the illusion “God is good” or “the Bible is the truth” or you name it.

The truth is, there are far too many child abusers in privileged religious positions, whether it’s sexual or physical abuse. The percentage of religious abusers is just way higher than the normal per capita ratio.

Nobody should forgive religious people who are also cruel to their children by forcing God the Monster down their throats.

Nothing could possibly be more mentally damaging to children than telling them over and over again from birth there exists an invisible person (God or whatever) who is unwilling to prove he exists watching them every second of every day, reading their thoughts, and if they don't believe in this invisible person they will be tortured for eternity.

Yet we tell the same children that monsters don't exist so it's silly to be scared of monsters.

Answer 5

True forgiveness is to love & accept the one you are forgiving without judging them!
If you first judge & then forgive it is false forgiveness!
Even Jesus didn't forgive His crucifiers without judging them!!
He judged them as ignorant by saying, " they know not what they do" while forgiving them!!!

Truly its very difficult because one has to attain a state of unconditional love wherein forgiveness becomes a state of being & not an isolated act done after due consideration!

Answer 6

I just pray for God to soften my heart toward that individual if it is His will. Sometimes though, forgiving someone doesn't mean that you welcome that person back into your life. You can forgive them in your heart, let go of the anger or hurt you have, and still choose to live your life without them.

Answer 7

I don't think forgiving is a conscious action - I don't actually think "I'm going to go forgive this person now". We are supposed to LOVE people like unto ourself. I love myself, although I don't always like myself. In loving someone, it reaches a point where their actions can't hurt you. They don't matter because you love them, even if you don't like what they do. I think forgiveness is just a side-effect of loving someone.

Answer 8

I ask for God's help always, - when I need to forgive someone.
I usually show that person that I have forgiven them, by word or deed, that way, we are both released.

Answer 9

For me It's quiet easy...because God will Punish them...not me!!
U just do not keep things in your heart..be a peaceful one!!

Answer 10

it is easy sometimes and hard sometimes.
But i Forgive poeple easily.