Lately my best friend's having some problems with her boyfriend. He told her that he DOES regret asking her out and at the same time, DONT regret asking her out YET he keeps telling her that he loves her. WTF !? I dont get it. And i cant ask her to dump him, cause she'll start cutting. She cuts when she's sad, depressed or whatever and she hasnt cut for about 2 weeks which is GREAT because the last time she cut, she was in th hospital. If i dont break it off with her bofriend and her, the damage could be worse and if i do it now, i'm afraid i wont have a best friend anymore. Please help me. I just dont know what to do!
2006-08-02 14:01:24 · 3 answers · asked by Aki Kwai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't mingle into it!
Your best friend can decide about her life ALONE.
Leave them alone, I'd say. She should learn to decide about her life ALONE. Don't tell her what to do. Just tell her that she can come to you any time. That is what a best friend can best do.
If she wants, if she needs it, she will appeal to you and ask for your help.
If not, it is all up to HER to decide. Respect her decisions.
Something tells me she won't cut, at all!
Let her live.
S
2006-08-02 14:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her very patiently. Ask her what she wants, how she feels, and ask her if she believes he really does love her. He does not. If he did, he would not treat her like that. Let her know that she is worth so much more than that and she doesn't have to put up with that crap. If she starts cutting again, give her a hug and cry with her. Try to convince her that hurting herself isn't the best way to deal with emotional pain (although I'm sure she knows that already). Whatever you do, DON'T leave her alone when she's emotional. Tell her you love her no matter what, and she will get through this. Even with all the negative repurcussions, at least she will be rid of that loser. He doesn't know what he wants and he has now idea what he's giving up by driving her away.
Good luck.
2006-08-02 21:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dillydally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to go is bring your friend to a shrink... You cant always go on bailing her out. She must learn to handle her problems in a manner that would not be detrimental to her. Dig deeper and find the root of the problem. I think there is more to this than meets the eye.
2006-08-02 21:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋