Would you go out with a decent looking guy with a daughter?
I've recently broke up with my bf because of this. In his defense; it really shouldn't be a problem since he dont live or see his daughter ...or the mother of the child.
He claims to be a "good boy" for he don't smoke or drink...
But good boys don't run around and get girls pregnant!! :(
Did i make the right choice by breaking up with him?
Please help.
2006-07-20 07:43:45 · 25 answers · asked by jeanne1120 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO, that was a stupid reason to break up with him. People aren't bad because they've had sex and made babies. I think you need to look at the big picture here. If you like the guy and he's good to you that's all that matters.
I have a daughter from a previous relationship as does my boyfriend. I've had a lot of boyfriends before I had my daughter who've had children. People have sex and sometimes people get pregnant.
If you don't want a guy because he has a child that's your thing, but you should then ask yourself if you want someone to discriminate against you like that if you had a child.
2006-07-20 08:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My answer depends on your age, his age, the circumstances under which the daughter was conceived...if neither of you are teenagers or under age 25, the daughter wouldn't be a problem if she isn't a newborn. But if he's having babies right now with other women, kick him to the curb. He's got some issues if that's the case. You probably made the right decision.
And these other answers raise good points: what would happen if you got pregnant? Does he provide for his daugher? If he isn't taking care of the current child, what makes you think he will care for your child? I still say leave him alone.
2006-07-20 14:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Creole Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever had sex? Well if you have, or even if you havent, often times something can happen after a whopping 2 minutes, sister. Do you want to pay all your life for a mistake you made in 2 minutes? No one can ever love you again because you had a child? Ridiculous!
However, if he hid it from you, and then you found out, he's a liar and cant be trusted. He may have his insecure reasons for not speaking up, but if he gave a damn about you, he would have at the beginning. PS ANY MAN WHO DOESNT TAKE CARE OF HIS CHILD OR VISIT THEM IS A LOSER. If you want a reason to ditch him, that should be it.
2006-07-20 14:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure but if hes a good boy why dont he have visitation with his daughter?She was conceived by his running around? on a Xgf?good girls don't lay down and get pregnant eitherso she is as much 2 blame . but a good boy would support his child and have visitation .get over the mother part they have a child they have to communicate.
2006-07-20 14:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by wewamom2503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to be jealous of the baby and the baby's mother, you have no business dating anyone with kids. Whether or not he he sees his child SHOULD NOT BE A PROBLEM. A child always comes first. If you cant accept his child, stay away from him.
Everyone has a past. It doesnt make him "good" or "bad".
2006-07-20 14:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i was in a similar situation but he had a son i broke up with him because first of all he isnt reasponsible to run away from his child he was man enuff to get her pregnant then he should be man enuff to take care of the child and be a real father and who knows of he wont do tha same to you all im saying is keep your eyes open and dont let nobody use you
2006-07-20 14:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Poohskii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not seem like a decent guy if he does not have any contact with his daughter! I think you made a right choice because he does not appear to take care of his responsibilites and that is very immature!
2006-07-20 14:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by latina311204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two were serious and he wasn't cheating on you while you were together, then I think it wasn't the right thing to do! Everybody makes mistakes! He made a mistake! But if he was cheating, or not being responsible and you just couldn't deal with the fact that he has a kid then it was the right thing to do! It's not right to be together if the fact that he has a kid is really bothering you! It's a completely personal choice! ya know?
2006-07-20 14:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it depends on the feelings between the mother, and him. If she's looking to somehow stay in touch with him, it would have been better to have broken off the relationship before someone got seriously hurt. Now if there were no communications, or feelings between them, it might have been good to let this all in the past.
2006-07-20 14:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you made the right choice. Why would you want a man that doesn't take care of his responsibilities. You never know, you might have been the next single mother.
2006-07-20 14:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by cdj514 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋