Please help....?

Question

Please help......?
I'm 13 and Live with my Father and my Step-Mother. I am not aloud to see or talk to my Real Mother unless Under Supervised Visitatation. Latlely I've been thinking of my Mom and want to talk to her. I have a counselor, but I feel unconfortable talking to her sometimes because she talks to my Step-mom too. I don't know what to do because I want to see my Mom but don't know who to go to. If I go to my Parents, they seem Angry and that makes me feel bad and makes me not wanna finish asking them. If I talk to my Counselor, I'm not sure if she'll do anything about it. (By the way: I don't usually want to see my Mom since I hate her newer Husband and she is just stupid. Not mental Retardation stupid. Just Stupid lol. Stupid decisions.) Thanks for your help. I appreciate it. And sorry If my Question is a little harder to understand.


If I want to write a letter i have to give it to the counselor and I think she has to read it.Or she will.My parents aren't abusive...

Answer 1

you have every right to see your mother and if your father and step mother can't handle this perhaps they are the ones that need the counseling!! tell your counselor and ask her if she should ask them or you and ask her what the best approach would be so as to not hurt or cause anger with anyone. so sorry you are in this situation. so often parents make it about themselves instead of the children. maybe your dad and stepmom also just need to be assured that while you love and miss your mom you know she makes poor choices and do not plan on following her example.

Answer 2

You must talk to your father and your stepmother seriously, slowly, calmly, ad reasonably. Make them understand that you need to talk to your mother because you've been thinking about her a lot lately. Tell them too why they seem so angry everytime you ask them to see your real mother and they have to give you a reasonable answer because if not it's just not fair. They have to understand, tell them that you're not a baby anymore and that it is logical that anyone should be allowed to see their mother anytime they want. If it doesn't work out speak to your counselor, but if they do accept and talk to you tell the counselor any way. say that your old enough to know the reason why they look so angry everytime you want to see your mother and ask them to put in your position, they will have to understand and that someone can't just keep you away from your mother, it's a very common thing. I wish they understand and be very glad that your parents are not abusive, I wish you good luck!!

Answer 3

First of all if you're not comfortable with your counselor then she's not doing you any good and it's time to find someone else. Second, there's a reason that your mother is only allowed supervised visitation and I must assume it's for your safety and best interests but what you're wanting and missing is that mother/daughter relationship and connection. Whatever's going on you need to voice your feelings and concerns to your dad and counselor, they're the only ones who can make the changes and help you out.

Answer 4

well here is the deal, depending on what state you live in you have rights to see or not see your parent. Different states have different ages when you get to call the shots. Why dont you write your mom a quick note letting her know you'd like to see her alone, no husband to talk. Let your mom contact you... That's really tuff I am sorry. But noone can stop you from having a relationship with your mom if that's what you want. Just be careful you dont want to get hurt. good luck

Answer 5

Counselors take an oath to protect the privacy of their clients. Ask your counselor outright what her privacy policy is regarding the rights of minors. You obviously need someone you can trust to talk to. Your counselor will not lie to you (unless she is a very bad counselor). For her to talk about you to your stepmom violates breach of trust for adults. Unless you are contemplating suicide, you should be able to request what information you are willing to share, and what information you would like kept provate between you. You ar gettign to an age where you should be allowed that much respect. So, my advice is, talk to your counselor, and ask her directly what her policy is. You deserve to know, not have to guess. Depending on her answer, work out a way with ehr that meets both your requirements and hers. This is what she gest paid to do- help you learn to solve problems.

Answer 6

the counselor is not allowed to discuss anything you say to her specifically under any circumstances, its priviliged, if she is talking to your step mom then she is surely just trying to appease her and not giving her any REAL information about your visits. Also it is perfectly natural for a child to want to see their natural mother not matter what she has done or not done, just make sure that when you do you let your step mom and dad know how much you love and appreciate them and be honest, you might be suprised at how well they take it if you are open with them.

Answer 7

look there is no reason why you should have to tell anyone you want to call your mom. borrow a freinds cell or use a pay phone but call her she will appreciate it. also buy your own stamps when you get a chance then you can drop a letter in the mail any time. Never feel bad about wanting to talk to your real parents... if someone doesnt like it it's there problem.

Answer 8

Is mom doing what she is supposed to to get supervision removed? YOur 13, I'd think the court may listen to your point of view of being able to loosen the strings a little bit. My gosh what harm can be done to you over the phone. Sheesh. She's still you mom and has family history that could be important to you later in life.

Answer 9

First Some How Talk To Your Real Mother.

Answer 10

You can write a letter that does not have anything private. That way your mother will know you want to get in touch but your privacy isn't invaded by the therapist reading it or what she may tell your step-mother. Good luck to you.