Why do women of today think it's cool to not cook? or not offer help when you have a home project?

Question

I think it's amazing that more and more of the girls you meet today are useless. If it's not clubbing or painting their faces or shopping at the mall they don't seem interested in anything else and act bored if you ask them to come over and help out when you have a big project around the house. I've had to ask my GF to come over lately becuz she won't offer herself. And when she's here she's got this face. Shouldn't she want to be here? WTF? i've seen this problem b4 too. Yea another one is going to bite the dust cuz im shipping her back, but still there is something wrong going on and it's widescale. Why are they being raised as princesses? or what makes you think a diamond is something you deserve just becuz.....or is sleeping with a man supposed to be a favor and disclaim you from any other labor?

I think your wrong to the person about diamond rings not being earned. IT IS earned in much the same way a man earns a yes to him popping the question.

I do share my duties:
I cook almost everyday for myself or for her if I know she's coming over. But if I plan a project at the house which is when I could use a hand cuz it's tuff to stop everything that your doing to clean up and then make a meal or even a snack, it never fails either her family has an event for her to go to or she figures out a way to be busy and I'm stuck like chuck.

My golden rule since living with GF's has always been you should nver scrub the tub or the toilet. And if the mop aches your back leave it to me. These have always been laborous things a women should not hav to do.
But dammit she comes in here and lays in my living room quite comfortably, but when I need a hand she's too busy and if she happens to show, she has a face, IS A SMILE TOO MUCH to ask for? She dosnt evn live w/me, can u imagine?

Answer 1

maybe because men seem to only be interested in the outer appearance of women. they have to keep themselves up-to-date and polished at all times. maybe she's not mechanically inclined. i helped my boyfriend (at the time, now my husband) with his painting, but my mom lectured me and said it was rude & ungentlemanly of him to ask or want me to help him. so obviously, this "trend" is not new.

Answer 2

I think it is pure laziness and lack of love and respect for the other person. Personally I was raised old fashioned. I clean the house do the laundry and make sure I cook at least 2 big meals a day. My husband handles all the outdoor chores and labor stuff, but we both help each other in any way we can and I think that is how it should be. People don't understand what a working relationship is anymore

Answer 3

Hey - your question is insulting in so many ways.
Your g/f doesn't live with you. Are you going to her house to do projects with her?
Do you cook for her?
Does sleeping with a man mean a woman is also supposed to provide free labour for him?

Your g/f isn't lazy or useless - and no, she probably doesn't want to be there... Only an asshole thinks that a woman needs to earn a diamond ring.

I personally cook for my spouse very often. I live with him and he is supporting me through University. I'm am not his tool or an object around the house to service him. It's simply an equal relationship with a balance between the amount of effort we both put forth. Although I usually cook, he still cooks occasionally. Plus he does all of the yard work. However, I do the housework and grocery shopping. On the outside it might look very traditional, but - like i said- he supports me. And our relationship will evolve again once I'm finished school and am earning $50,000 a year.
So um, hey, my point is - you don't own a woman, and once you realize that you might be able to sustain a meaningful (and equal) relationship with a woman who actually wants to be near you.
Good luck with that.

Answer 4

Hey I don't think that it is 'not cool' to cook, it is just that I don't enjoy it! I like to spend time with my guy and my kids and always help with jobs around the house even though my hubby is a time served joiner of 15 years. I wasn't raised as a princess. I would be horrified if my hubby bought me a pair of diamond earrings as a reward for keeping the house tidy etc rather than buying them just because he loves me! And I definitely do not class having sex with my hubby as a favour nor a chore, in fact I sometimes feel a little guilty because he spends most of the time pleasuring me!

All in all I think you are way off the mark. It is not that cooking isn't 'cool', it is just that it is so dull as with the housework in general. You need to get with the program and realise that it isn't 'woman's work', it should be shared equally between two partners.

Answer 5

Apparently it's trendy to be stupid. I think too many girls and young women model their lives after celebrities like Paris Hilton or Britney Spears, these dumb, giggling, airheads with no obvious intelligence or responsibility. Now, keep in mind that not all women are this way. There are still women that pride themselves on being smart and capable people. I feel very sorry for some of these girls when the big shock of real life hits them because their airhead cuteness wears off and they are left to take care of themselves. I also think that there are too many mothers that try to be their daughter's best friend instead of a role model, never teaching them about self-respect, pride or independence!

Answer 6

Most young girls these days are raised by women that have to work. They don't learn to cook and clean as a necessity and since mom does it all they get lazy and grow up that way. My 20 year old step daughter was never taught by her mom how cook and clean, when I came along I taught her how to shop cook clean and fix crap around the house w/o needing a man. Now she lives on her own keeps a clean house cook for her and her boyfriend and can change a tire. Young girls these days think they are entitled to be pampered--only hurts um in the end!

Answer 7

Yeah there are alot of girls out there like that. Personally.. I've used the "Hey come over and I'll cook you something good" ploy for getting my dates to like me more xD Food after ill IS the way to a mans heart is it not?

I think you just got the wrong girl. There are plenty out there who still know how to do useful things besides paint their faces and lay on their backs.

But that put aside, with career women today, maybe they can't find the time to do such things with work in the mix. After all, between career/money and cooking.. even I would choose the money.

Answer 8

No not all. I always wanted to cook something for my man and would always offer help in almost everything... There are just some women who don't like household chores just like some men too. Now, if your gf is the model-actress type of person, then you can never get her to work as she is more concern about her appearance than being a partner.

Answer 9

Probably because MOST men expect women to work, help pay the bills, care for the kids, keep the house clean etc. When all they think they (men) should do is just go to work. I rarely cook. I got a great husband. He doesn't expect me to and fully admits I work harder than he does on any given day. He comes home from work and is done. I come home and have to take kids to their extra curricular activities, straighten up the house, do the laundry etc. Screw cooking! That is what take out is for!

Answer 10

Where do you get off saying that anyways? Sure some girls do diddly squat. But there's a lot of guys who are just the same. As you put it that we go shopping all the time, BOYS do nothing but video games, watching tv, and being very pigheaded to women. So I don't really think it's our problem here, it's yours. When you learn to respect women, they'll respect you and help you. Not before.

Answer 11

WOMEN'S LIB has screwed up alot for women I think.
Now women are joining groups that traditionally were meant as men only groups.
They now want to play professional sports - ON THE MEN"S TEAM !!! RUBBISH I SAY !!!
I still bake my own bread and still cook homemade meals. I serve my Children and then my Husband and then myself. I was born as a SOUTHERN lady and will continue to know my role as a woman. I do the housework, I have a job outside of my home as well, I do not believe a man should - do housework of any kind. And when my children were still in diapers I NEVER asked my husband to change them. I was the raiser of our children. That is not to say that he did not offer !! He helped me alot. BUT I never ASKED him to do these things. He did it because he loves us and rspects us. You always receive more from a person when it is NOT demanded of them.
It does NOT make me less of a person and I know most of you will disagree with my up bringing. But so be it. It is who I am and I am proud of it.