why does everyone say "looks don't matter" but how they act is totally opposite?

Answer 1

I think people say it at first to sound like they aren't shallow . . because in the beginning I think looks do play an important part in the attraction between two people. BUT, if someone is beautiful and you start a conversation with them and it's absolutely stupid, I can guarantee you that person won't be attractive to you anymore. That's how it works for me anyway, unless you really ARE a shallow person and don't care about their personality. But, more in-depth to the question, if you find someone that you end up wanting to be with, their looks aren't going to be what keeps you together. Sure, looks might help in making you feel good about the relationship and drawing yourself to the other person, but if you're thinking long-term that other person is going to need a lot more than looks to be successful in your relationship . . . like compromise, care, understanding, hard work, etc. Just because two people are beautiful and can uphold a decent conversation doesn't mean that's all it needs.

Answer 2

Looks matter to me, but I would rather have a cute girl with a great personality than a hot babe that is a pain in the buttocks. I guess its human nature to look at the physical attributes. Would you rather have a corvette or a geo metro? I guess it kinda comes from the society teachings...look at all the commercials, do you ever see Alchoholic Beverages showing drunk stupid ugly people??? Reality is that the truth campaign for cigarettes should also focus on alcohol, sorry I got off the subject. Peace.

Answer 3

At first glance, looks do matter because you only know that much about the person you have just met and not a thing about their personality. That is your "first impression." Now, after meeting the person and getting to know them, the personality is what makes you or breaks you. Thats like when I see a guy from across the room and think "Wow, what a cutie." and then we get to talking and all I think about is how I am going to get away from the guy. First impression made me want to get to know him but then after getting to know him I wish I never have. Truly, in the end, it is your personality that makes all the difference.

Answer 4

Looks don't matter is something that ugly people say. All people look at physical traits in the beginning. But it's what is on the inside that keeps you interested.

Answer 5

well, if i meet a guy and he is HOT and then opens his mouth and ugly stuff starts coming out, i would have nothing to do with him, and really, he would be ugly to me. If I met a guy that was so-so, and he was humorous, and had the right words and plenty of kindness, then I would jump on him. But, if he was butt ugly, it would take a person longer to get used to him, i can't say that i would have a relationship with him. But, i am married, don't have to play that game anymore

Answer 6

Some people say a lot of things. Most of which needs to be taken with a grain of salt. What's important is how you feel about yourself.

Answer 7

Same reason why expectations are always more than reality can deliver. Our intentions are more noble than our practicality can keep up with. As the Bible puts it, "the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak."

Answer 8

Everyone practices a double standard when confronted with physical appearances.

Answer 9

looks do matter to a certain extent... a good personality matters too

Answer 10

Because we're silly humans and we all know that looks are the first thing that attracts us to someone.

-Lola & Giselle