my work mates are ignoring me for no apparent reason.i feel so isolated like a leper an outcast dunno wat 2 do

Question

we began a new shift at work some of the people are too close to team leaders and have an influence over them. I am a lot older than most of them but thats no excuse, ive worked on other shifts with no problems but this one is so unfair im left on my own with no help while they are helping each other, having a laugh etc. they bypass me to help their other mates and i feel so alone and isolated, like ive done something wrong. I keep asking myself what have i done to upset them that they have taken to totally ignoring me.It never used to be this way when we started a few months back they were alright with me but a few ringleaders took a dislike to me and the rest followed. What i find hard to understand is that some of them are parents and should know better i feel sorry for their kids. To add to all of this, my son, did not want to be with me on fathers day, aged 14, he'd rather be with his girlfriend!!!!! I feel like crying especaially in work today so isolated so alone so polarised!!

Answer 1

First of all I'd like to "point" out that bilge & mesun1408 are dipshit angst emofag goth kiddies who do not know the different between their *** & a ******* hole in the ground.

Now since that's done.
You really don’t have anyone to blame including yourself, it's not their fault, nor is it your fault. Things like this happen, when I was working I had a co-worker that was strictly religious & this other co-worker didn’t want anything to do with her. She just likes to talk about religion & it pisses the other off. Okay, I'm not saying you’re strict on something; I'm just giving an example. Actually, they’re probably not ignoring you because you did something wrong, its most likely an age barrier. About your son, don’t worry about him not wanting to be with you, he’ll grow out of it, all teenagers don’t necessarily want to be around their parents because they don’t think they’re cool. Your son is 14 & that’s the time where peer-pressure comes in, around 12 & 13. Teens are always in a drive to be the popular one when they don’t realize once they graduate no one cares. This also means having a steady girlfriend. At this age, teens start seeing their parents as someone they live with & they also start treating them all ATM machines. I’m 18 & I now how it is & how he feels, I still have problems with my parents, but my parents are assholes all the time, no joke, I’m serious. They’re always trying to change me when they have no damn clue that there IS an age barrier. When I was his age, I never care for these types of days too. Also, the problem the work is that there are assholes everywhere, even right here where you’re reading this, i.e. bilge & mesun1408. While I was working the managers & supervisors treated the employees like kindergartners. We all worked our asses off & they ***** at us if we take a rest for just a few seconds. I eventually snapped like all teens do when they’re underappreciated, I caused the big ******* scene at the place I worked; swear my *** off to the assistant manager. I laugh about it now. But enough about that.

All you need to worry about is doing your job effectively to make the customer feel appreciated & to come back again many times over. That’s one way to make them notice. That is, if you don’t work in a factory.

Answer 2

I don't see how talking to your colleagues can help; they must be aware that their behaviour isn't acceptable. At work, keep your chin up and your mouth shut. If they see they're getting to you they'll get a kick out of it. Be the better person. Just carry on with your job.
Inexperienced team leaders will try to suck up to junior staff so as to avoid trouble and be popular; always a big mistake as they lose any authority they started with. This may be why they see you as a threat; you are older and male; you have been there a while. That automatically gives you authority at work and they don't like it.
Your bosses might not be aware of the situation, but they have a problem developing. Do you have a relationship with anyone senior that you could have a quiet word with? Not in a sneaky or backbiting way, just a straight one employee to another way? That shift is heading for trouble; whos actually running it?
Is there any chance you could look for work elsewhere if things get too bad?
As for your son, that sounds fairly typical for a 14 year old! They can be thoughtless at that age. Can you arrange for the three of you to go for a burger and to the cinema some time?
You've got a lot on your plate at the moment, do yourself a favour and try to find something to pick your spirits up. You've got a pc, can you take a course? Or learn a new program, or photography or something? Try to get out and meet some new people; when you do, don't mention your problems. Have something you can do to get away from it all.
Best of luck.

Answer 3

This happens to me as well. The main reason for myself is that I work hard, they don;t. I follow the rules: they don't. Is there another shift you could transfer to? If you wish, you could try to find out why those team leads are dissatisfied with you, but unfortunately, from my own past experience, these clods have made up their minds. All I did, was continue to show up for work, and continue my job, no matter what. In time, I made new friends and now we are the ones laughing. Look, if it really is that bad for you, perhaps someone in the Human Resources Department where you work can help. As for your son, well.... age 14 is so darned tough! He is discovering himself. Perhaps you could suggest the two of you do something together in lieu of Father's Day. Make a kind of Dad/Son day. Start a new tradition. Please, don't try to make him feel guilty about it. It may only cause larger problems. Take care. There are many of us out here who understand more than you know!

Answer 4

Let's start with your son - very typical for his age not to want to spend holidays with family. Father's day is a hallmark holiday - and you shouldn't be feeling that upset over it - thre are plenty of other days in the year where he spends time with you. Just because a huge greeting card chain got a "dad's day" going...doesn't mean you should be holidng it against him if he doesn't spend the day.

As far as your work - unfortunately, there is little you can do. You didn't explain why the "ringleaders" took a dislike to you - something had to have happened - but very rarely can you turn something like that around. If it is that uncomfortable for you I suggest you talk to a supervisor and explain you need your shift changed for personal reasons. When you start working with a new group, be mindful of their feelings.

Answer 5

It's all politics. Try a book called Working the Shadow Side or something close. It helps explain why people act like that and how to work with it.

There's nothing wrong with you as long as you are doing your job. Do you go help them? Do you ask about their families? Why act like there's something wrong? Just do your job, accept that some people play those stupid games, and be glad you don't operate that way.

As for your son, of course he would rather be with his girlfriend. Parents are just dumb at that age and kids don't understand what it means to have parents. They don't appreciate it and won't for several years. You can't take it personally. It's something they have to learn through experience. Believe me, they will want to come around for Father's Day when they are older, if only for the free food! You honestly can't take anything they do to separate themselves from you personally at that age. It's a time for them to strike out. They all do that.

If you think it could help, don't be afraid to try counseling or medication. Try your Human Resources department. They don't have to try to DO anything about it. They are there just to listen sometimes, too. Keep your chin up. It sounds like you have a great family and a good, stable life. Remember that and enjoy it. Good luck!

Answer 6

Communicate your feelings to the people around you to resolve these issues.

Answer 7

THINGS JUST DON'T CHECK OUT. YOU MUST HAVE A PERSONAL PROBLEM OR SOMEONE IS TALKING BAD ABOUT YOU. BE SINCERE AND WORK IT OUT WITH YOUR COWORKER AND DON'T ISOLATE YOURSELF.

Answer 8

dare I say mid-life crisis? get a hobby

Answer 9

emigrate to albania and crucify yourself

Answer 10

talk to them about it and tell them how you feel.