and, is it the same? I made myself get over my boyfriend of 7 years last year in about 6 months. Then, he got his stuff together & we are back together, for about 6 months now, but it doesn't feel like love anymore (on my end); he treats me much better, and I know he loves me, but once you fall out of love, can you really ever fall in love with that person again?
2006-06-14 10:50:14 · 15 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you can. You just have to let yourself fall in love. It might take some time and it might not happen over night but you can regain the love you once had - probably even better and stronger now that both of you are on the same page and know what you want.
2006-06-14 10:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably still in love with him or you wouldn't even be asking this question - you wouldn't care. I think you're just scared (and rightly so) that the new and improved boyfriend won't last. It may or it may not but taking it slow can't hurt and it will give you time to see if things are really different and to have those feelings of love again.
That being said, I don't know what happened to force you to "fall out of love" with him in the first place. Some things just can't or shouldn't be forgiven and it's hard to really love and have a good relationship with someone in that situation.
Good Luck. I know it's tough.
2006-06-14 10:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by DC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you fall in love with that person again?
Love works in mysterious ways, right? So you can't really explain if you don't feel the same way. It is how it is. Don't try to make yourself fall in or out of love. When you're in love or out of love, you'll know and it won't matter what anyone else thinks. Only you know your true feelings.
2006-06-14 10:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by GoAskNat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think it can be the same, you've been through too much, you've grown and changed and your idea of him and the relationship you once had has changed, people are often more in love with the idea of a relationship or a person than with the actual person. you can also love your life with someone without loving them actually and you can love a person and hate the life the two of you have. its all got to come together to actually work, sounds like he blew it to me. people need to realize that someone giving you their love is a gift and it must be cared for because once its damaged it may stay together but will never be quite like it was before. good luck to you!
2006-06-14 10:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good question.
I doubt that six months would of been enough time to get over a 7 year relationship. Maybe you have a defense mechanism going on here. Like maybe you have a boundary around your heart to avoid those hurt feelings of the initial break up, therefore it is hard to put these walls down (for fear of it not working again). Without these walls down, then your relationship will suffer as it is now.
2006-06-14 10:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought I was the only one...When I get over a guy, I am truly over him.
And most of those guys are now back knocking down my door wanting to be with me again and wanting to act right. I have considered giving them another chance, but when being honest with myself, I realize that those feelings I once had aren't there anymore and I am not going to try to force them.
So I really don't think you can get those feelings back. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one cuz out of all my friends, both male and female, I'm the only one who can do this.
2006-06-14 10:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends: Was it really love or infatuation? If it was really love, it can be regained. However, you'll have to start from the very beginning and go slow. And I mean start dating like you just met.
2006-06-14 11:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER have gone back with him if you didnt love him...
You are not being fair to him, and yourself.
In fact, you should be ashamed of yourself for misleading him, into thinking there is something between you, now, if you break it off, your really going to give him a "set back" into what ever troubles he had in the first place...
You were his "rock" that he cleaned himself up for... Now, your a dissapointment...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-06-14 10:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this won'tanswer your question but how did you manage to get over your boyfriend of 7 years, my boyfriend left me 2 wks ago after 5 year relationship and I'm going insane, don't know what to do with myself, I call him, he doesn't answer my calls, I text him, he doesn't respond to any of my texts, by the way he never really broke up with me, from one day to the next he stopped calling.
really need your advice corky201@msn.com
2006-06-14 10:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think you can fall back into love unless that person does something to show they really care for you.
2006-06-14 10:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋