Family - January 2007

We have been seperated now for 2 years, he dos'nt pay anything towards her up keep, he constantly lets her down, telling her that he will come up on a certain day and then dos'nt turn up. The last time she saw him was Christmas morning he came up from 6.45am until 7.50am, no card no pressie. I hav'nt heard anything from him since. He has been abusive in the past which resulted in me losing twins at 9 weeks pregnant. He has a good job, but spends his money on drink and cocaine. But, My daughter likes to see him??(when he does eventually turn up) should I stop contact to avoid her being constantly let down,( this has gone on for 2 years) we have already tried the arranged visits and he did'nt keep to the times stated by the solicitor, or am I just hoping that he will change and wasting my time.

2007-01-22 23:32:35 · 37 answers · asked by brux 1

They barly remember him and my olderst 5 year old son calls him a stranger and says he dosnt like him. Ive never put anything in his head to make him think this. When ever he asks I just say We are happy right, maybe he is too. or i dont know hunny. I want to get full custody and wondering if its hard to do it in Canada.He also has never given me any money for them ever! what do i do?

2007-01-22 23:05:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-22 23:04:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sounds a bit like a soap my life. A few years back my boyfriend went Awol, he started hanging around with a few girls in their teens. At the time i found out i went ballistic, and had a slanging match with many. He apologised for his behaviour and i forgive him. We built a new life, new home and are very happy. But every so often i go out, i happen to see one of the girl members.. she often makes smug remarks at me and laughs very childish. I try my hardest to ignore her and not let her get to me. How can i get over this. Sometimes i wonder if im simply being just paranoid. Why has she got a problem with me, if they were just friends back then?

2007-01-22 23:00:12 · 7 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6

What would you people do if you had no parents except for a lost dad which people say he's , and you were sent to a place which treated you like dirt, and you ran away, now everyone is looking for you and chasing you. and your siblings and step siblings keep getting hurt. What would you people do if that happened to you, because that's the situation i'm in right now.

2007-01-22 22:50:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 25 and get treated like I am 9! And it is not because I act like a kid. I am a responsible adult with a full time job and I'm also doing a masters degree part time.

I always feel guilty whenever I refuse a request from them. E.g., If they want me to do something for them and I say no.

They dont do this to my brother (whos 21) - Why Me?

Im a woman.

2007-01-22 22:33:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents and i had a nasty fight a few days ago. I'm really starting to dislike them now. When i was a kid,my dad used to hit me with his belt and my mum wouldent say anything. They do get me whatever i want but when it comes to fulfilling my emotional needs....i have nothing to say. Not even once have they asked me what i wanna do in college. When i was 17,i told my mum that i was sexually abused as a kid and she quickly hushed me up. She thinks that it's a shameful thing. Am i being ungrateful in disliking them?

2007-01-22 21:58:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my sisiter is the golden child, i am the scapegoat, what shall i do, i am now 25 yrs old

2007-01-22 21:55:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

We were doing really good and even had a little extra when last year my husband lost his job. I work too. he has since gotten anouther job that pays a little less then his privious one. well since then we have fallen behind and are trying to catch up. we havent asked a single person for help , but it seems like since we had some bad times both of our families are angry with us. Is this true in a lot of families?

2007-01-22 21:43:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

hows the best way? i'm not really good at talking to my mum bout relationships, sex and that she sort of jumps to the wrong conclusions everytime. so how do i tell her? plz help.

2007-01-22 21:33:59 · 36 answers · asked by Amy 2

I am in love with two people at present, One is an ex boyfreind - who abandoned me, after i told him that i was abused as a child, He didnt keep in touch at all, infact 5 bithdays he never even wished me, I was however in touch with his best friend, who is now a good friend of mine, I was mainly in touch with his best friend cause it was my link to my ex...

aNYHOW i am suppose to get engaged in 2 weeks from now (formally) - Informlly - Ive put the ring on hold, tough the guy has asked me twice... and i said yes, but no rings till the formal one..

my present guy - He' s a very nice guy - Um, i actually fell in love with him months after knowing him, he tends to put my needs first, and he's everything i would want a man to be, He's never ever let me down - and once he even held my hand the whole night after i told him i was scared about what was going to happen, he sat and held my hand tellin me to relax

My question - who do i choose, and how? do i tell my fiance abt my ex?

2007-01-22 21:30:38 · 6 answers · asked by Almost Engaged 1

i had an affair now i have ended it up.before 2 years my marrige. i m scared either to tell or not to my husband.i think it will create problems for me if he comes to know about it from some one else
plz help.

2007-01-22 20:59:48 · 34 answers · asked by marwa 1

2007-01-22 20:51:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm 17 and will be 18 in september i would like to move away from southampton to London and start college over there for a year or so.i would move in with my boyfriend.but i'm scared about telling my mum because i dont want to upset her,she likes my boyfriend but my nan hates him and i'm scared what their reaction will be what shaoul i do???

2007-01-22 20:47:36 · 14 answers · asked by Mal S 1

I have got problems with my family . I have got 4 sisters and 1 brothers they are all bad and I feel that no one loves me When they go somewhere they don't take me with them I am the youngest one and my mum don't let me go out with my friends so all the time I set in my house alone doing nothing and I am bored all the time .
Also the talk to me with rude impolite words
I am feeling so bad about my life And I feel sometimes that I wanna kill my self

2007-01-22 20:25:29 · 25 answers · asked by Cinderella 1

Hii, My name is Jessica.
I have a few questions, but first I'd like to explain the situation to those of you who are willing to help and give suggestions....
I have just moved into this Apartment complex about 2 in half months ago, About a month in a half ago, A mexican family of 7 people moved downstairs right below me, At first I didn't associate with any of them, Then I met the young daughters that live there, they are 4 years of age, and the other is 8 years old. They have 3 cousins that live with them, None of them speak English out of the 7 of them, except their dad, and the two daughters. Their mom & cousins are learning to speak English every day. I hang out with their family every day of the week, and I teach one of their cousins how to speak English & He helps me speak Spanish. Well I have a huge, huge attraction to this guy, and I know he is attracted to me, But we just can't go into deep conversation because we only speak a certain amount of each others language...........

2007-01-22 20:02:30 · 9 answers · asked by It's Just me.... Kiwi :) 2

My parent will just called me and said they need money. Pls bank in the money asap. They will give all sort of stories. Mom is getting her pension and dad is collecting rental. I dont know what to do and say. I, myself is struggling to plan my life. How on earth I can do my saving if they just simply keep on asking without considering my situation.

2007-01-22 19:54:52 · 4 answers · asked by raraluglio 1

I am having my childs birthday pretty soon and i have been looking for a ball pin that is big enought to fit him and some more toddlers in for his bday. Like the one that b at chuckecheese or mcds. Please help I am running out of patience.

2007-01-22 19:40:14 · 2 answers · asked by SugNspice_1 2

My father was very abusive (physically and verbally) when i was younger. To me and my mother and everyone (friends and family) know what used to happen. I have been hospitalized many times and so has my mom. Now they finally got a divorce and my dad has court ordered anger management classes. Out of no where hes been talking to my mom and trying to get back in our lives. It seems like im the only one against it. My mom says hes changed and my friends say i should forgive. I dont normally hold a grudge but i dont want anything to do with him, i cant stand to even look at him. Everyone says im being stubborn and rude and i have no respect cuz no matter what happened hes still my father and i should be happy hes changed. I dont even believe that only 3 weeks of an anger management class has changed a 45 yr old man who has acted like an animal all his life. Do u think i should give him another chance or am i right?

2007-01-22 19:23:40 · 14 answers · asked by Angelina A 2

Who am I. my mother refused to tell me why I never knew who my real father was, and yet I went to his wake in 1965. She died in 2000 not admitting to anything, and I am still haunted by the past. I have learned much about who I am, but it still chrurns inside me.

2007-01-22 19:12:32 · 4 answers · asked by Stan K 1

i am 30 and pregnant my aunt told me that i am too old to have my first child and to consider an abortion but my husband and i want kids and my other aunt said that she didn't like the baby names i picked out then my cousin said that i am stupid for wanting a baby and my sister in law said that my husband is too immature to have a baby but he is a year older than me and not immature what would you do ? this really bothers me i just want them to be happy for me not mean

2007-01-22 18:37:15 · 26 answers · asked by mrs garfield 5

I am married and have been with my husband for almost 7 years. I have been JUST FRIENDS with this other guy for about 4 years. several times in the last couple years this other guy has flirted with me and tried to convince me to have an affair with him. I was always able to blow him off. Anyway a couple days ago, he called me drunk and begged me to have an affair with him and then had my sister in law (my husband's sister) call me and tell me that he was going to kill himself if I didn't call him back. I know it was just a ploy to get me to call him, because I never called him back and tonight he is texting me again. I have tried the thing of you know I am married and his comment to me was he don't mind so my husband doesn't matter. I make sure that I am not alone with him ever, but my sis in law is trying everything in her power to make something between the other guy and me happen. The other guy is her step son. I don't want to have him kill himself but I am really not interested....

2007-01-22 18:26:36 · 13 answers · asked by Someonesmommy 5

Ok my dad and I fight..a lot. He tells me he can, its his right too, but i have trouble believing that. He says there is no laaw against spanking your kids with a leather belt. And pushing them, he tells me that the only way to get me to listen is to make me scared of him. And also, after we fight, he'll come in my room when im still crying and be like "goodnight i love you" and it hurts me really bad, cause he acts like nothing happened just 5 minutes before. And when we do fight, he tells me im stupid, ima ***** and a whole bunch of other names. and he calls me fat..im 5'9 and 1/2" by the way and i weigh 117lbs. I just dont get if what he is doing is right, him and my mom have been doin this since i was 8 and they tell me to go ahead and call the cops on them, cause all they'll do is laugh at me. whats going on? what do i do? HELP ME!

2007-01-22 18:25:06 · 20 answers · asked by hayray 3

2007-01-22 18:09:35 · 3 answers · asked by MPG 2

My ex (unmarried) and I recently split up and the very next day, he moved in with a new girlfriend (& her Mom). He now has his own place, and I am currently working on partial custody with him, but I am a bit bitter towards this new girlfriend he has, as she is 10 years younger than he is, and I consider her a "homewrecker". She has called me every name in the book and has put down my parenting (based on what my ex has told her) without even knowing how I live and raise my son. If I want my son's father to have partial custody--can I add a speculation that she NOT be around during that time period my son is staying? I'm worried about being bad-mouthed in front of my son, and frankly, don't think the relationship is that serious yet. They've only been together 2 months. I have a feeling my answer will be..."get an attorney" but I was wondering if anybody else has gone through this and have any suggestions. My son's father and I still get along, until the subject of HER is brought up.

2007-01-22 17:49:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to throw an 80's party for my mom...cuz she was like a teenager in the 80's but i want it clean..just fun and hip hop...the style the music the talk i want it to be funny but something that she'll really have fun and clean cuz shes a church goer and i wouldnt mind inviting some ppl from there

2007-01-22 17:48:52 · 2 answers · asked by babiluv 3

My 20 year old and my 25 year old are very self centered right now. I will be 60. I hope they can remember the fun times and take time to laugh with me again before it is to late. They never have time for me unless they have needs.

2007-01-22 17:31:17 · 10 answers · asked by Lyric Lady 1

I need help really bad. See my mom and my brother kinda abusive to me and I don't know what to do now. I talked to the school consular about it, and they called child services. First they talk to my mother and things like that, and I don't know what they are going to do now. She is still the same and nobody will help me. Of course my brother won't help and my friends, well some do know but i don't want them to get involved with this. The more people might know about the more she gets mad at me. I am terrified everyday of my life and I don't know what to do. It seems like nobody cares and I have no where to go. I wish that I could move away and at least try to get my life back in order. I talked to the school consular again today, and she said that shouldn't do anything to make them mad. Everything makes them mad! No matter what I do I get into trouble, and it doesn't even matter if my brother does something i still get into trouble. I don't know what to do.can you guys help me? Please?

2007-01-22 16:56:22 · 8 answers · asked by Angel-gurl23 2

Ever since my older brother move back into my mom's house with his wife my life change a lot. This is when I was a freshman in high school and now I'm in college. Well, like I said, ever since they move in my life change and I'm always depressed. Well, there was always ...always drama in the house everyday and that's no lie. Either my brother beats his wife up in front of the family or my parents or my brother gets into an argument or me and my brother. Now he's like 22 and I was like 16 back than. NOTE( My brother is on cocaine, don't work, no bills, sells drugs and my parents knew about it but didn't really do something about it cause they care for the little kids. Well, my positive attitude change and everything was negative from there on. I'm still depress and I'm not really focus in my education because with all the drama in my last 4 years of life I still find it hard for me to not depress. Someone help me out cause I'm depress and lose and don't know how to get back on my positive

2007-01-22 16:45:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hii, My name is Jessica.
I have a few questions, but first I'd like to explain the situation to those of you who are willing to help and give suggestions....
I have just moved into this Apartment complex about 2 in half months ago, About a month in a half ago, A mexican family of 7 people moved downstairs right below me, At first I didn't associate with any of them, Then I met the young daughters that live there, they are 4 years of age, and the other is 8 years old. They have 3 cousins that live with them, None of them speak English out of the 7 of them, except their dad, and the two daughters. Their mom & cousins are learning to speak English every day. I hang out with their family every day of the week, and I teach one of their cousins how to speak English & He helps me speak Spanish. Well I have a huge, huge attraction to this guy, and I know he is attracted to me, But we just can't go into deep conversation because we only speak a certain amount of each others language...........

2007-01-22 16:23:36 · 7 answers · asked by It's Just me.... Kiwi :) 2