Family & Relationships - 1 October 2006

2006-10-01 16:30:31 · 7 answers · asked by Jade A 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok here goes:


I’m 15, this girl is 13: ITS only 2 years

A few months ago, me and this girl were really close, we would talk and flirt all the time, and this went on for a while, well eventually people started talking about us, being so close, and wondered if we were dating. She started backing off big time, and seemed like something was bothering her. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said idk maybe. I took it as a nice way of saying no. Well she told her friends she just doesn’t know, because I’ve liked many different girls b4, and she just want to see if I could stick with her for a while. Well months passed, and we got further and further away. I wondered why? Well she and her mom are REALLY close, so I asked her mom. Her mom said she was just really scared, because we have been friends since age 7. Well then she told her friends she just doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. It got to the point were I couldn’t stand it anymore. So I emailed her this about a month ago


can we please talk??
I've got to tell you something, because, well, i just got to know.
I really like you, alot. And it seemed like you used to like me. But now, it just seems like you are really really trying to avoid me. I mean, i know youve been busy and all with swimmin, but like since carrowinds, we havent talked, barely any , at all. It seems like you just dont care about me. I mean, i feel so confused, because, for some reason, you just stopped talking to me. Why? I mean, are you trying to get me to take the hint? Or what? I mean i really dont know what to think. Tell me anything, tell me that you hate me, just please please be honest. Remember that thing at carrowinds, guys cant stand when girls beat around the bush? Well, if you dont like me, please just tell me straight up. My feelings wont be hurt. And if you do, but just arent sure, just tell me. I wanna be there for you, I want you to be able to trust me, and be able to talk to me, about anything

This is what she replied

hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later.





This is what I replied



hey!!. thanks for being honest with me. I really value our friendship too, and if you don’t feel comfortable, because of ruining the friendship if something were to happen, that is cool with me.




Now to me, that sounds like two things (1) she doesn’t want to ruin a friendship, cuz we’ve been friends since age 7 or (2) shes just letting me down easy. But now she is flirting with this other guy, like she used to do with me. But she seems more comfortable around me than she did before. But when she sees that I am not going out of my way to see her, she seems to talk to me more, and flirt a little more, almost like she don’t have me anymore. And sometimes, Ill catch her looking at me, and when I look she’ll look away. And then sometimes, her body language, she just seems sad, like she wants to tell me something, or likes me or IDK what, its just she seems different since we talked about it. But I mean b4 she really seemed to like me, and IDK why she just would have stopped. , I mean I’ve like many girls, just none like this, When I wake up sheds the first think I think about, and the last think when I go to sleep. I just cant let her go.
My question is do you think she was letting me down easy, or is just scared, and what should I do about it? And please don’t tell me I’m too young

2006-10-01 16:30:17 · 19 answers · asked by how many 1 in Singles & Dating

OKAY GUYS AND GIRLS I HAVE BEEN TALKIN TO THESE GUY AND HE TOLD ALL HIS PERSONAL BUSINESS.BUT I CAN'T GET HIM TO OPENED UP AND TELL ME IF HIS FEEL ME OR NOT.His a shy guy everytime we do talk i have to start the conversation.And what does it mean if a guy doesn't call. i pretty sure it means that his not really feel me at all.The guy gives me mixed feelings sometimes.and to tell you guys and girls the truth i really can't take his bullshit anymore.SHOULD I TELL HIM HOW I FEEL OR DOES THAT MAKE ME LOOK DESPERATE.SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME OUT

2006-10-01 16:29:35 · 7 answers · asked by Mocha 2 in Singles & Dating

So. im a senior in high school and i like this freshman girl. I have talked to her a lot and i love seeing her in the hall because she always gives me this great smile. Well, i got the guts to ask her to homecoming, but shes not allowed to have a date for dances until shes 16, so what should i do? Im not sure if she likes me but i have a gut feeling she does. We always talk and if im talking to someone within earshot of her she will typically join in. But if she does like me what should i do? I suppose i could still dance with her, but what can i do to go the next step? should i try to show myself in a positive light and try to change the parents minds' or what?

2006-10-01 16:29:22 · 11 answers · asked by Nick 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-01 16:28:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is 17. We live about 3 hours from eachother and dont get to see eachother very often. The last time we saw eachother was about 5 months ago. So, the fair is coming soon and I think that would be a great time to see eachother but the problem is he doesnt own a car. How could he come?

2006-10-01 16:28:58 · 6 answers · asked by XSkittle_FantasticX 1 in Singles & Dating

It's been a long time since I had I date.

2006-10-01 16:28:51 · 5 answers · asked by Tavita 5 in Singles & Dating

And, does Santa deliver gifts in Heaven? How do you answer those questions from a 6 yr, old kid?

2006-10-01 16:28:31 · 6 answers · asked by ZORRO 3 in Friends

2006-10-01 16:27:39 · 11 answers · asked by tobeornottobe 4 in Singles & Dating

Today, our 5 year anniversary, he signed the card "Luv, Rich."

This makes me realize what I've been suspecting...he does not LOVE me. He LUVS me. But LOVE is what you need for marriage to work.

I want a divorce right now, but I'm nervous to tell him. How do I?

2006-10-01 16:27:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We are two years apart and I'm older than him. Isn't that weird enough? Soon (in a month) I'm going to be 18 and he will still be 15. Isn't that bad? I mean even when he turns 16 it'll still be bad. And sometimes I think he's retarded. We go to different schools and I don't know if he is, but it just seems like it to me. He used to be a big pot head, is that why he's like stupid? Well he's pretty smart in all but he just seems retarded. He's cute though! But yeah I don't know if I should break up with him. I'm the longest relationship he's ever had and he tells me he loves me every day and it kinda freaks me out. I don't wanna hurt him, but I think I already am. What should I do?

2006-10-01 16:27:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So I just got married about 9 months ago legally, but we didn't have our hindu marriage. Essentially, I got married so my fiance could get her paperwork in and get her life started in America. She is from New Zealand. Things went terribly south in the last few months, with her disrespecting me and my family and deciding to run away from my house because it seems as if she was looking more for a lifestyle than for love. She didn't want to live in the situation we were in at that time, and not willing to understand. So the whole time, I tried to get her back, and she was stubborn. She really cast me in a bad light--I am not perfect, but I also did not treat her badly enough to warrant this behaviour. Her father, got involved and did not hear both sides of the story. Things went south fast. So she's gone back to NZ, and her father is preparing to send the papers. She sends me hate emails, but then says she loves me. I am tired of the instability. I never told her to leave...

2006-10-01 16:26:52 · 14 answers · asked by Funkadelik HomoSapien 1 in Marriage & Divorce

we have been together for 7 years since we were 17. Do u think she has even wanted to sleep with another guy? A ladies opinion would be nice.

2006-10-01 16:26:27 · 19 answers · asked by yort 1 in Friends

So I'm 19 and there's this professor in his late 20's early 30's that I'm into. We have so much in common and he's done things that lead me to beleive he has feelings for me too. He's very proper and aways follows the rules so I don't think he would ever intiate anything, though.
So I'm wondering what the best way to approach him is that wouldn't make him uncomfortable or cross any boundries and that would prove to him that I'm mature. What would a man in his position be looking for?
Oh, and can an intelligent man his age truely have feelings for a 19 year old, or would the connection be completely superficial?
Just so you know, I'm not doing this to get a good grade or anything, I just really like him.

2006-10-01 16:26:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

On the first day of school there was this boy that i have known but never really, knew. Once I got to know him I developed a crush on him. Then one day i found out that one of my best friends had a crush on him too. Suddenly it became a race. This want any easy race. This girl is perfect. Blonde, smart, pretty, funny, and more that i cant think of or probably type because my vision is getting blurry. After she told me that she liked him too, (but i loved him) we promised that neither one of us would go out wit him even if he asked them. Then, a couple of weeks later he asked her out, not me. All of my other friends knew that I liked him and they told him to ask her anyway. He did it right in front of me. I felt like I had jumped off of a 8 story building and landed on a knife. I burst into tears. Like I am now. But i managed to hide them until i got to the bathroom. And just so you know this wasn't any ordinary crush. I loved him. And I still do today. But I could just kill myself because I know he likes her. And when he asked her she didnt even think about the promise we mad or glance at me to see how I felt about it. She just said "Yay." Thats it. I felt so horrible i could have just shriveled up right there next to the tree. Everyone loves this girl anyways. Why did she have to like the one that I liked--strike that, LOVE? And silly me, I thought that she is sooo picky with boys that she would at least say "let me think about it" but no such luck. "yay", yay, it sounds so wierd so say to someone asking you out, but apparently he liked it. Can I die right now? And if youre reading this and you know that its you im talking about please dont get mad. im just expressing my feelings and dont get freaked out either. just read the rest. I know that he doesnt like me. He treats dog **** better than me. He can be nice sometimes, offering paper to me in reading class everyonce and a while. This girl I'm still friends with her but im so jealous sometimes i wish i could just change my whole life to be just like her so people would like me too. I cant do that though. I just hope that when im gone and theres no one to chase after him hes gonna realize that he loves me too.

2006-10-01 16:25:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend just dumped me for another girl.I'm smart and talented.I have brown hazel eyes ,dimples, black curly hair,big beautiful white smile.I have a D cup and a nice ***.I also have awesome curves.I'm a dancer and I play the piano and violin.

2006-10-01 16:24:54 · 9 answers · asked by nyny Sexy 33 2 in Singles & Dating

It really confuses me when people are mean to you but actually like you. Do you ever do that and why?

2006-10-01 16:24:46 · 10 answers · asked by Debbie R 1 in Singles & Dating

if yes what style shoes would u give him your heels,flats,sandles,tennies,or flipflops?????? how old are u????

2006-10-01 16:23:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-10-01 16:22:31 · 9 answers · asked by anon 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Me and my hubby have been together for 8 yrs and married for 2. He never wants to spend time together when we are together all we do is yell at each other we have 3 kids together is it worth staying or should i just say forgit it and move on ? He is 28 and i am 23 he could care less about working or providing for us he rather hang out at his brother in laws house or play ball and huntting so do i just deal with it or say bye?????????

2006-10-01 16:22:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i dont know how to deal with it
i love him, but he does not love me,
and he only comes to see our son
and now i think my 1 y.o. son loves him more than he does me

2006-10-01 16:21:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

um i dont want to force him or anything but like how can i tempt him cuz he wanted to but i said no and ever since he wont have that with me the maximum thing he does is kiss me

2006-10-01 16:21:12 · 14 answers · asked by chrisbaby5eva 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-01 16:20:55 · 23 answers · asked by how many 1 in Singles & Dating

Today was our 5 year anniversary.

The card was signed "Luv, Rich."

WTF?

2006-10-01 16:20:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am 23, live and work in NYC... but I am always bored out of my mind. It seems like the only thing that 20 somethings in the city do is go to bars and nightclubs. I don't drink, and I find the bar/nightclub scene to be rather obnoxious and boring... yet.. there seems to be nothing else to do where I can meet women my age. Anyone have any suggestions?

2006-10-01 16:20:33 · 4 answers · asked by unit481 1 in Singles & Dating

Just wanna know before I send them don't wanna send the wrong messenge.

2006-10-01 16:20:18 · 2 answers · asked by nice_simple_guy82 2 in Singles & Dating

Hi all. My Mommy and her boyfriend got back together. I found out when I arrived home from work today. Well, he slithered back into our trailer this afternoon, swooned her with her favorite gifts from the $1 store you know....body lotions, hair clips, photo albums, sponges, scented douches, candles, plastic figurines of children and angels. Well, she fell back in love with him. Now, on Sundays Mommy makes me hamburger helper, corn on the side, white bread and juicy juice. I was expecting it when I got home. But what were we having??? Mommy's boyfriends' favorite! Chuckwagon steak, peas, mashed potatoes and baked apples. I was fuming! Well, her boyfriend pizzed me off right away by making fun of me. I walk in and he says "Hey Buddy Wolf!" Then he proceeds to cry like a wolf, with head movements and all. I told him to suck my d*ck and lick my balls. Well, Mommy got irate and told me to go to my room. I'm so mad. I can hear them having sex right now. I am 31 years old. Should I move out??

2006-10-01 16:19:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My Asian mother claims that if you're in love, you can't study or concentrate in school. I think it really depends on the person, but she doesn't think so. What do you guys think? Do you agree with her, or do you beg to differ?

2006-10-01 16:19:19 · 6 answers · asked by carolple 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-01 16:18:57 · 26 answers · asked by mike_tall_fit_single 1 in Friends

i just answerd a ? about slutty or inocent. how many guys does a girl have to sleep with to be considered slutty?

2006-10-01 16:18:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating